AKA chat-up-lines; but this is online, so not quite the traditional boy-approaches-girl-in-a-bar situation.
The basic premise of online dating is that you meet people you don’t know. With this in mind, you have nothing to lose when starting a conversation with someone.
This can be both good and bad.
because if you are the one to initiate a conversation and they decide not to reply, hey ho, nothing lost, so what?
because, with this lack of personal embarrassment, almost anything goes:
Straight to the point:
‘Fancy hooking up?’
‘We should go on a date’
Trying to spark some interest:
‘Can I ask you something…?’
‘You win at being hot’
Or my personal favourite – Innuendos:
[Talking about flicking through photos on Tinder]:
Him: ‘You know something I could flick?’
Me: ‘Tell me’
Him: ‘Your bean?’
Me: ‘Oh my. How forward’
Him: ‘No point ferreting around the bushes :p’
[Talking about going to the pub, but I’m currently busy]:
Him: ‘Oh c’mon. I’ll let you sit on my face?’
Tinder is heralded as ‘the hooking up app’. So I suppose why not assume that everyone is on there for a good time, and say it as it is? The worse that will happen is you are ‘unmatched’; the best being you get a shag.
But surely, with match.com being paid subscription only and POF having the option to pay for an upgrade, you’d expect men to be of a higher calibre on these sites?!
Or maybe men are fed up with dead-end conversations with girls; slowly getting to know them over messages, showing interest in what they did this weekend, only to be blown-off for their date because the girl became ‘ill’.
In which case, fair enough.