“Those people who live their dreams are sad messes and the people who end up flailing behind are people who have their shit together”
– Girls TV Series
When Hannah, the lead character in Girls said this, it really struck a chord with me.
- My job is going fantastically well
- I have lots of super friends
- Family is as wonderful as ever
Yet, I’m still single.
I have my shit together. But I’m flailing behind on the partner-front.
Today I received my first wedding invite from a friend. As exciting as this is, it’s also the start of something terrifying. In the summer ahead, I know three or four couples getting married, and more are in the pipe-line.
I’m not saying that my friends are ‘sad messes’ – it’s more a reflection on me: surely, once most areas of your life are sorted, the last piece of the puzzle just slots into place….?
In fact, the past few months have actually led to quite a few steps in the wrong direction. Being stood-up, being ignored after a charming one-night-stand (I’m aware of the juxtaposition; let’s move on) and countless cancelled dates are not conducive to a happy single life. I feel things are going a bit pear-shaped.
With this in mind, a friend and I are off speed-dating. I’ve worked out there are four possible outcomes:
- Numbers are exchanged, and successful dates occur
- Numbers are exchanged, dates are a disaster
- No numbers are exchanged, but I have a fun night out with my friend
- No numbers are exchanged, the night is a disaster and I feel as single as ever
Number 3 would be fine. Number 4 would not be. Number 3 would be okay.
But wouldn’t it be wonderful if Number 1 was the outcome of the night?
I’ll let you know.