My housemate reckons he has dating sussed. So here’s his guide to finding the perfect person for you:
- Use the ‘Quirk Rules of Attraction Venn Diagram’
It comprises of
- Sexual Attraction
- Physical Attraction
- Emotional Attraction
All are equally important, and the best relationships involve all three elements.
- If you’re physically AND sexually, but not emotionally attracted to someone, this tends to lend itself to great short-term flings / one- or two-night stands.
- It can be ‘really annoying’ if you’re physically AND emotionally, but not sexually attracted to someone, as you have great conversations with this person, find them absolutely gorgeous, but there’s no sexual chemistry (which most people find important to successful relationships).
- It can be a tricky situation if you’re emotionally AND sexually, but not physically attracted to someone, because you wouldn’t want to be seen holding hands with or snogging this person, but you desperately want to shag them.
So what to learn from this?
Next time I start dating someone I need to work out if I fancy them AND like their personality AND want to shag them. If I don’t want all these three things, then the potential relationship is doomed…