Watching First Dates and reflecting on my own checkered dating past has highlighted an array of guidelines on what to do (and what to avoid) on a first date.
Conversation. Don’t talk about politics, death, marriage and babies, exes or money. End of.
Alcohol. Don’t get really drunk on a first date. This is from personal experience. I was nervous. I got plastered. He was very affectionate and paid for everything (probably thought he’d get a shag out of the date), we went our seperate ways and I went to bed thinking it was a really successful date. How wrong I was. And I blame my weakness for alcohol. Trust me – mistaking ‘Dutch courage’ for getting wankered is a bad, bad plan.
Sex. ‘If you really like them, try not to have sex with them’.
The bill. Always an awkward moment when two people who are trying to impress each other fumble about with their wallets. If it’s decided that the bill should be split, for goodness sake don’t get a calculator out! Try and work it out in your head; faffing about with calculators is demoralising. I once went on a date with a guy who couldn’t work out half of £50 – is it better to admit to having shit mental maths and get out a calculator or to look awkward and hope the other person tells you how much you owe? A friend said ‘I’d be concerned if someone couldn’t work out half a number’.
It’s also deeply uncomfortable when a massive deal is made out of paying the bill. It stunts the conversation and adds an awkward air to the date. And what about not paying service? Yes, we have all been on a budget at some point, but service should be paid. It was painful to watch First Dates when one guy refused to pay the service tip; it made him look stingy and that’s not a fab trait; best avoided on a first date.
Any thoughts, do comment.