This year I’ve learnt that although personality is important, it’s not absolutely crucial and looks are more important than I anticipated.
I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now and we’ve progressed into boyfriend / girlfriend territory. According to mutual friends, he had been keen for a while, so we met at social gatherings, went for drinks together and had the odd sleepover. More recently, he came to visit in Brighton and we’ve spent weekends together. I thought he was attractive, but with hindsight, I think I found the idea of him more attractive. Initially, he seemed great:
- 29 years old
- has a job and a passion that come together
- amazing chef
- we have mutual friends
In so many ways, he couldn’t have been more different to my ex (rebound?!], but as the months have gone on, he’s actually rather similar. He’s been fired from his passionate job and wants ‘a boring office job’ to tide him over. He also doesn’t seem to have a drive to live an exciting life with long-term goals. He finds me ‘intimidating’ because I have my shit together. He also hasn’t achieved much in 29 years. However, there are key differences: the ex was stunning, he dressed to kill and was very charismatic. He also recently called to say he’s still in love with me.
Why is it so hard to find a bloke who is:
And why am I still asking the same question 3 years later?!