Attachment, Love Languages and Erotic Blueprints

We all know our upbringing and life experiences shape how we interact with the world – from how we deal with adversity to how we forge relationships (and everything in between) – so it’s no surprise psychologists are on a mission to understand this behaviour. In 1969, John Bowlby’s pioneering work constructed the theory of…

Love Lessons from a Pandemic

We’ve all gone through stages of having a list of what we need and what we want from a partner. We may have added to the list over the years or detracted from it. Perhaps we scrunched up the paper and chucked it in the bin because someone came along who fit none of our…

What Are The 5 Languages of Love?

At the beginning of lockdown, I’m sure many of us had grand plans to learn another language and another skill.  Despite my half-arsed efforts, this has not happened.  However, (amongst exploring Kink, Desire and new recesses of Pornhub) I have learnt about the ‘Five Love Languages‘ that help us to have happier relationships with our…

Locked-down Love: Passion and BDSM.

365 Days It’s been heralded Poland’s answer to 50 Shades…  If that’s anything to go by, I expected shoddy scriptwriting, the word ‘Fuck’ to be uttered every other word and a female lead who’s utterly pathetic. I was only right on one account. As Netflix’s number 1 movie currently (disclaimer: I wrote this a few…

Love and Lust in Lockdown – Whole Series

Old followers will know I’ve been writing for years; new followers will soon realise I have tonnes of posts about love, lust and loss.  Whilst most of my posts come from personal lived experiences, it’s an absolute joy when others are happy (or at least willing) to feature in my blog. So thank you to…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Self-improvement.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   George, 30. What is your relationship status? Single.   Describe your love-life in one word. Wondering.   Who have you been quarantining…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Day by day.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   D (F), 33. What is your relationship status? Undefined.   Describe your love-life in one word. Jumbled.   Who have you been…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: An education.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Seb, 33. What is your relationship status? Single.   Describe your love-life in one word. Untraditional.   Who have you been quarantining…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Growing roots.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Shorona, 31. What is your relationship status? Co-habiting.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 8 months and 5…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Filthy adventures for the future.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Z (male), 31. What is your relationship status? I’m currently single and not looking for a monogamous relationship.   Describe your love-life…