Successes and Failures – Part 3 of 3

You can find Part 1 here and Part 2 here. My darling best friend spent a long time considering his successes and failures and sent me a very long message.  Wishing to do it justice, I’ve decided to write it out as he shared it with me so it maintains his voice and the eloquence…

It takes a village to raise a child

This year, I’ve written quite prolifically about my fertility and health problems.  But as 2019 draws to a close, I’m thinking about the future – particularly as I’m careering towards 30 at (what seems like) an alarming rate. Specifically, I’m thinking about family plans.  Whilst so many things are going well (family, friends, career and…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…

Successes and Failures – Part 2 of 3

In Part 1 I wrote about personal and global achievements and disasters. Whilst writing, I messaged friends and they kindly shared with me some of their own successes and failures.  Hopefully, by grouping them into themes, I haven’t reduced their poignancy. [Since writing Part 2, other friends have messaged with their own experiences, so I’ve…

Successes and Failures – Part 1 of 3

As the year draws to an end, we often reflect on our accomplishments and failures of the past 12 months.  We might be particularly proud of a promotion, or an engagement or reaching out to a forgotten friend.  Or maybe we missed opportunities and look back at the year with a hint of regret, but…

Two cups, not one.

If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…

Polycystic Ovaries and Fertility

On deciding to write about PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome), I’ve discovered it’s Polycystic Awareness Month!  And as it comes to the end of the month, it’s a good opportunity to write about my experiences of PCOS. Until a few years ago, I didn’t know I had PCOS.  At the age of 25, I had my…

60 years.

In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages – two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear…

Our heroes and our heroines.

When you tell your son and your daughter a bedtime story, I hope the narrative will have changed.They don’t need to hear of distressed damsels or Prince Charming hair – they need the stories in which the girl saves herself and sometimes she saves Prince Charming, too.For we all need guidance at one point or…

Self-care and What a Time to be Alone.

Choose yourself. Over and over again. Even when you’ve let yourself down. Choose yourself. Even when it feels uncomfortable. Choose yourself. Even when you’re tired. Choose yourself. Chidera Eggerue When things aren’t going to plan, it’s more crucial than ever to love and care for yourself.  I’m still on the path of a career change,…