Battlefield

The battlefield behind you
tells not of bloodied corpses
but of poppies;
each poppy a lesson learnt
from a romance
or a dalliance.

To navigate this war zone
you’ve used intuition and strategy –

Tantra: An Education

For the past few months, I’ve wanted to explore another side of my sexuality, particularly tantric sex. An educationalist at heart, when I read a glowing review of Tantra, the latest exhibition at The British Museum, I felt it would be the perfect introduction to this ancient practice. So on a rainy Wednesday in October,…

Sexual Wellness: The Market That’s Approaching Second Base

An edited version of this article was originally published here for Nulune; a strategic advisory company striving for a better tomorrow.  Founded by my dear friend, Alice Bodkin, Nulune’s mission is to engage brands in conversations around sustainability and wellbeing and to inspire new ideas and disruption for the future.  Knowing my love for all…

Top 100 Sex Blogs 2020

Molly Moore at Molly’s Daily Kiss has announced the nominations are open for the Top 100 Sex Blogs of 2020. Over the years, I’ve found these lists (here is 2019’s) an invaluable resource to connect with other sex bloggers and to engage with, and continue, the conversations which permeate our community. And whilst I don’t…

Why I Write About Sex

When I started this blog at the age of 21 (I am now 28), I wanted to write about my experiences of sex, dating and relationships because what I wanted to find out and talk about regarding sex wasn’t available in the magazines I was reading, the porn I was watching or the websites I…

Sex Ed: Are We Doing Enough?

(Originally posted on LinkedIn for the EdTech Lobby, but still written by me.) Children and young people across the world are returning to their classrooms.  Over the past five months, many will have learnt how to make pasta from scratch, re-read all the Harry Potter books or completed their favourite video game twice over.  Other…

Those Chaotic Twenties…

Those chaotic twenties, characterised by comparison and rumination; when career successes brush up against career panics. And Saturday night’s laughter shape-shifts into Sunday’s regret; as frivolous exploration transforms into ‘unbecoming behaviour’. Through which independence beckons and financial demands loom, yet childhood lurks behind our shoulders. But those chaotic twenties, as love, desire and passion are…

Erotic Escapades

I have a big, exciting announcement: I have a new freelance job as an erotic scriptwriter for Emjoy. Emjoy produces audio erotica, mainly catered for women’s aural pleasure.  And there’s something for everyone: one chilli indicates a sensual story, two chillies allude to a sexier narrative and three chillies mean you’re in for a saucy…

How Does It Feel To Live With An Ex?

Just before lockdown, I broke up with my ex.  It was a strange breakup because we lived together in my home with housemates, so it was always going to be tricky. We took it slow and cared for one another – then a pandemic hit.  Moving back home for lockdown with my family was both…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Filthy adventures for the future.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Z (male), 31. What is your relationship status? I’m currently single and not looking for a monogamous relationship.   Describe your love-life…