Adapting

Eight weeks into a global lockdown there seems to be a shift in people’s mentalities: The first six weeks were characterised by silent roads during Monday morning’s ‘rush hour’, empty town centres on Saturday afternoons and quizzes on Friday nights.  Now, the traffic on our roads is almost returning to normal, town centres are a…

A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

Moving Forward; A’s Letter – Guest Blog

With time and after a few tearful phone calls, A and I have reached a stage of calmness, acceptance and positivity.  Here’s his recent letter to me (you can read his first one, here).  As with the previous letter; A has said I can post it on the blog.   Dear H, First of all,…

Entwined.

So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk.  Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress.  Whilst you felt things were looking better,…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 2)

(Read Stage 1 here) Prior to a video consultation with the fertility doctor, there was a barrage of forms to fill in and a video to watch and understand. Some of the forms included: consent for the clinic to use my personal information an extensive medical questionnaire a ‘welfare of the child’ quiz : will…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 1)

In some ways, the lockdown doesn’t stop life going on.  Yes, we’re working from home (see here for my top tips for staying sane and productive).  Yes, we’re cancelling dentist appointments and hair cuts, but in many ways, we’re adapting not stopping. And some things won’t fix themselves.  All the time I wait and don’t…

8 Pillars of Joy in the Time of the Coronavirus

Last summer, I read a book called ‘The Book of Joy‘ by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu, edited by Douglas Abrams.  In it, these two spiritual and religious men identified 8 Pillars of Joy; 4 for the mind and 4 for the heart.  During this time of global depression, anxiety and uncertainty, I’m trying…

Write with Rupi

On Friday evening 9,000 people tuned into Rupi Kaur’s IG Live for a writing workshop.  I wasn’t sure what to expect but I was so engaged that the hour whizzed by; possibly the fastest hour of the week in quarantine. There were moments I found myself feeling emotional about the workshop; with the virus impacting…

My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…

Working From Home? Here’s how to stay sane and stay productive

During this pandemic, many, many people are being asked to work from home.  Other people are choosing to WFH whilst they self-isolate.  Of course, I acknowledge there are many fields of work in which WFH is not an option: doctors and nurses ‘on the front line’, vets, locksmiths, chefs – to name just a few. …