Life’s complicated, which makes sex complicated — even, or especially, with someone you’ve been in a relationship with for a while. We don’t always want sex every day, or in the same way each time we do have sex, so why should we presume our partner wants the same kind of sex each time? At…
Category: Relationships
Sex Toys for Beginners
I’ve been writing for Lovehoney for the best part of a year, and in that time, I’ve written about a lot of sex toys. Scouring countless product reviews and honest accounts on the Lovehoney Forum, I’ve got the inside scoop on the sex toys getting the nation off. You’ve probably heard of dildos, vibrators and…
A Sexy Playlist – part 1
What songs get you in the mood? Do you opt for a sensual genre or seek a particular song? I whack on my “Me and You” playlist. (I’m a serial shuffler, so there’s no order to it. Life’s too busy to think about BPM.) I first published this sexy playlist about 5 years ago. Since…
There’s No Safe Way to Choke Someone
If I told you that some people get a kick out of being choked or choking someone during sex, would you raise your eyebrows or smirk? Maybe you’re into it, you’ve seen it in porn – or perhaps it’s been done to you when you didn’t ask for it. Choking is becoming increasingly common in…
What Happens When I Orgasm?
Is it a sex blog without a post about orgasms? Well, yes, because otherwise the past decade of writing has been futile. But it’s about time I wrote about the Big O. What is it? What happens in our brains and bodies? And how do we have more of them? Warning: it’s a sciencey piece….
4 Ways to Make Time for Sex
When you’re living with a partner, sex can suffer. There’s no longer the eager anticipation of weekend visits to each other’s homes with ample time to scrub, shave and moisturise in the preceding days. Instead, you’re sharing a bathroom… Then, add life stressors, children and comfort to the mix. See how easily sex slides down…
“Do You Want This?” Did I Want My Babygirl Relationship?
If only Babygirl had been filmed and released during Covid, like Netflix’s erotic thriller, 365 Days. Maybe I would’ve taken the movie as a cautionary tale and avoided the naive BDSM relationship I had with Simon*. Or, more likely, I would have found the film terribly enticing and fallen into bed with the sexy Dom…
Things Said in Private
Prince Charming and I are watching the newest season of Married at First Sight Australia (MAFSA). We didn’t want to. We promised we’d skip lots. But now we almost look forward to it each evening. Fast-forward the recaps and teasers, whizz through the lovey-dovey couples and get to the good stuff. In this week’s Commitment…
The Rise and Fall of Dating Apps
It’s Friday afternoon and I’m messaging a guy I’ve been chatting with for a while. We haven’t met but he’s obsessed with me being a sex writer. Sometimes, our conversation feels like death by questions, but when other conversations are dragging, I can rely on having a message from this guy. As I’m typing my…
Holiday Sex
You’re heading on holiday with your partner. Your destination is adults-only, has a private hot tub, and has a floor-to-ceiling window with an impressive view. You’re going to have so much sex. What do you pack? Condoms, lube, sexy lingerie, obviously. How about that new sex toy you’ve both been meaning to try? Or that…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 