NSFW: Kink in Quarantine

It wasn’t until the last few years of my twenties that I realised that rough sex is more common than I originally thought. Yes, hair-pulling is a frequent bedroom occurrence. Yes, Pornhub is awash with all manner of synonyms for ‘BDSM’. But when you know where to look, you find a crowd you had previously…

Oceans

Your voice envelopes me across oceans. Letters on the page transcribe a deeper intimacy and the confidence with which you speak rouses me down the telephone line. And I feel like I’ve known you for years.   Photo by Sithamshu Manoj on Unsplash

Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times

Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a global pandemic.  Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online.  But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others.  Can we form romantic connections online with…

Dating in the time of corona.

We’re all inside.  We’re all watching far too much TV and I’m sure some of us are eating far too many biscuits.  And it’s becoming very evident that a lot of people are on dating apps; certainly more than usual. In fact, this week a friend shared an article with me that said: On the…

Little Silver Linings in a Big Cloud of Shit

Walks, fresh air & sunshine Call with co-workers to stay in the loop Keeping a schedule Computer games Exercising & Yoga Family time Sleeping Productivity Writing Video calls with friends Reading   What are your silver linings made of?   Photo by Brett Sayles from Pexels

“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog

*Guest blog* – In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners.  Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts.   Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I…

My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…

28 things that make me happy

Crossing everything off my To-Do list Making a new recipe and it turning out to be delicious Spending time with friends/boyfriend/family Writing Having a clean and tidy house – especially the kitchen! Posting a blog post Finishing a book That clean, moisturised feeling after a shower or a relaxing bath Hearing the rain on my…

Working From Home? Here’s how to stay sane and stay productive

During this pandemic, many, many people are being asked to work from home.  Other people are choosing to WFH whilst they self-isolate.  Of course, I acknowledge there are many fields of work in which WFH is not an option: doctors and nurses ‘on the front line’, vets, locksmiths, chefs – to name just a few. …

A Toolkit for Self-Care

Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time-to-time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better. I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy-cakes will cure your depression, but if these things make…