Self-care and What a Time to be Alone.

Choose yourself. Over and over again. Even when you’ve let yourself down. Choose yourself. Even when it feels uncomfortable. Choose yourself. Even when you’re tired. Choose yourself. Chidera Eggerue When things aren’t going to plan, it’s more crucial than ever to love and care for yourself.  I’m still on the path of a career change,…

Memories

Memories The way you touch your chest when you’re passionate about the words you speak. The way you screw your face up when you giggle. The pitch of your voice when we get excited together. The curve of your stomach That leads to the lace of your lingerie and the shape of your pubic hair….

Everything I know about love and sex now I’m 26. Part 2/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.  See Part 1/2 here. Nice guys are hard to come by. If you spend the entirety of your teenage years in ONE long-term committed relationship by the time you turn 21, you won’t know how to talk to a boy you like, flirt,…

When The Guilty Feminist came to Brighton

As my readers will know, I LOVE Deborah Frances-White and her podcast, ‘The Guilty Feminist’.  Well, now she’s written a book of the same name and her book tour ended in Brighton.  You can buy Deborah’s book from Waterstones here.  My friend and fellow blogger joined me for an evening of giggles, roaring laughter and…

Is it starting?

Not being a mum was never an option for me.  But over the last few years, circumstance has meant remaining childless might be a consideration.  Being single at 26 is fine, and I know many women (who want children) don’t have them until their late 30’s and early 40’s, however, I haven’t found someone I’d…

Sex and loneliness: The Italian and The South African.

The loneliness I’ve sporadically felt over the past few years has clouded my judgments.  Often, I’ve approached experiences with the attitude of, ‘that’ll make a good chapter for the book!’ and so I do it anyway.  Of course, this is why I kept seeing The Bar Man.  Until recently, I’ve been using sex as a…

‘Tinder like a man’, he said.

Following from yet another failed attempt at dating, I decided I need to change my tac (doesn’t this sound familiar..?) ‘I’m giving up with dating apps!’ I exclaim to my friends on more than one occasion this summer.  ‘They’re full of guys who just want a quick shag.  I’ll never find a decent guy on…

How to be a girl (according to magazines)

I’ve given up reading magazines.  So many of them are full of instructions of what we should eat, how we should do our makeup and how we should flirt with boys. I’ve compiled a list of the shite I’ve read in magazines and what’s gone through my head immediately after:   ‘How to be beach-ready’…

Late at night

Do you text them late at night like you do to me? Do you whisper sweet nothings of what you both could be? Do you show off your cocktail flair then caress their legs and their hair? Do you drink as much with them, ‘though you’ve only gone over at ten? Do you plant kisses…