What to Expect at The Pearl Necklace

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’re hovering over the “Book Now” button thinking, “Should I?  Shouldn’t I?”  Yes, you should.  Then…

Taking Your First Steps into BDSM

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve managed to broach the topic of BDSM with your partner, well done.  Hopefully, they agreed…

A Sestina for “Matthew”*

I never met a man who was quite so confident in himself. The way he took charge of me shrouded his deep insecurity. Yet lying in the hotel bed, I lay with a man full of hurt, who believed life had not been kind to him and it had made him hard. Reader, he divulged…

Casual to Serious: Can it Ever Work?

Trigger Warning: This post relays scenes of rough, BDSM sex. Consensual but rough. Your mother will likely tell you that you can’t build a loving relationship from a casual hook-up. You’ll likely ignore her and be convinced this is possible in 2021 – after all, Becky and Andy started off shagging and look, they’re now…

Acronyms on Dating Sites: What Do They Mean?

So you’ve downloaded the app. You’re ready to line some dates up for this post-lockdown life. He looks nice and her profile seems genuine but what are all those letter combinations?! Over the years, I’ve been on plenty of dating sites. Some to find a partner, other times for casual experiences. And I’ve noticed there…

How to Explore BDSM Whilst in Quarantine

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. It’s been a long year and during this pandemic, our sex lives have taken a battering….

Sex Podcasts

There’s a podcast for everything, meaning, there’s a podcast for everyone. And although I’m no longer driving to work each day (and therefore don’t listen to podcasts as much as I used to), I still try and catch up on my favourite ones. Some are hilarious, others inspiring, and some spark an idea for a…

Love Lessons from a Pandemic

We’ve all gone through stages of having a list of what we need and what we want from a partner. We may have added to the list over the years or detracted from it. Perhaps we scrunched up the paper and chucked it in the bin because someone came along who fit none of our…

6 Top Tips for Success on Dating Apps

I’ve been on and off dating apps for most of my twenties; I’ve tried all the popular ones and sought after casual and monogamous relationships with both men and women. I’ve been around the block – see blog! Sometimes I’ve deleted my account because I’ve met someone and wanted to see where it progresses, but…

NSFW: Shibari Workshop

Earlier this week, my housemate and I tuned into Anatomie Studio‘s online Shibari class. The session focused on floor self-tying with the aim to learn key knots and rope positioning. So, we fetched our rope, poured two glasses of Bailey’s and plugged the Mac into the TV… We were ready to up-skill in Lockdown 2.0….