NSFW: Kink in Quarantine

It wasn’t until the last few years of my twenties that I realised that rough sex is more common than I originally thought. Yes, hair-pulling is a frequent bedroom occurrence. Yes, Pornhub is awash with all manner of synonyms for ‘BDSM’. But when you know where to look, you find a crowd you had previously…

A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

Things to consider before a career change

So the job you’re doing isn’t ‘sparking joy’.  You’ve reached the maximum happiness output you feel you’ll achieve and the job isn’t all you hoped it would be.  Maybe you’re worried you’ll be wasting your (£9,000 if you’re lucky, but more likely £27,000) BSc, your PGCE or your Masters (and an additional £9,000).  Maybe you’re…

“Our Own Little Narratives” – Guest Blog

*Guest blog* – A friend and I have been talking about collaborating on a few posts and sharing a male’s perspective on dating in our twenties (something this blog often lacks).  He said he’d send over some thoughts – any my, how he delivered!  I love the authenticity of his experiences and I thank him…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

The builder.

Friday, 4pm rolls around. The drilling and radio stop. Today, new problems have been found, and the client is ready to flop. Finishing his fourth cup of coffee of the day, the builder talks of the weekend (to her dismay).   “I’m not allowed ou’ on my own,” the builder says to the client. “the…

What Love Island Teaches us About Modern Dating.

Love Island has become the zeitgeist of dating for Millennials and Post-Millennials in Britain. For a few years, I rejected the series; overtly judging my sisters for wasting so much of their week aimlessly watching obscenely buff guys pursue small, toned, big-breasted women who fawn over one guy and then the next. I couldn’t understand…

I’m still writing!

The silence has not been for nothing; I have been working hard to produce a book from my blogs. It’s a slow process with other work and life commitments but progress is being made.   More blogs to come…

When you least expect it.

Everyone always says, ‘you’ll find someone when you least expect it‘. I’ve always disliked this saying; I least expect to find a boyfriend when I’m in Sainsbury’s, with unwashed hair and probably a hormone spot just starting on my jawline. Or when I’m hurriedly filling up with petrol in the pouring rain in converse. Or,…

Radio Silence…

My lovely readers, I apologise for the radio silence. A while ago, I mentioned that I’m adapting my blogs into a book and for the past few months, I’ve been going over my old blog posts and editing them and trying to put the posts into a coherent format. However, that’s not the only reason…