My Love Affair with Pubic Hair

I’ve been thinking about pubic hair a lot recently. Whilst I was single, I endeavoured to keep everything in my pants waxed or Immaced – you know, just in case. (Male friends have said they ‘keep on top of trimming’ when they’re single because they also never know when they’re going to get lucky and…

A different kind of Valentine’s Day.

I’m a feminist but sometimes I worry I’m too independent. I’m surprised at how hard I’ve found it to be in a relationship again. Over the past two years, I have grown and changed and I was so eager to get into a relationship with the right kind of person I worry I’ve steamed ahead…

Broken Boys

Broken Boys You are not a counsellor to heal all the distorted childhoods. You are not a hospital to mend all the broken behaviours. If a boy is damaged, it is not your job to do what his mother did not.Put your heart and soul into loving him, But don’t expect to plaster up the…

When you least expect it.

Everyone always says, ‘you’ll find someone when you least expect it‘. I’ve always disliked this saying; I least expect to find a boyfriend when I’m in Sainsbury’s, with unwashed hair and probably a hormone spot just starting on my jawline. Or when I’m hurriedly filling up with petrol in the pouring rain in converse. Or,…

Everything I knew about love and sex when I was 16. Part 1/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.   Read part 2 (what I know now I’m 26) here. There is such a thing as the perfect man.  He is my boyfriend. Getting a boyfriend is easy – just ask a friend for a boy’s MSN details and start messaging. Sex was…

Colours of our lives

Last week I went to India.  I am writing this at 3am on a Monday morning (UK time) because I can’t shift this jet lag, having only landed at 9pm Sunday night.   For me, one of the most striking aspects of the Indian culture is the colour: sarees, spices and holi abir add a…

I’m not one of those girls…

I’m not one of those girls who enjoys the gym, I’m not one of those girls who’ll have a tonic with gin, I’m not one of those girls who plays ‘hard to get’ I’m looking for someone special – why haven’t I found them yet?   I’m not one of those girls who’ll keep her…

Opposites.

What do I want? One was not this, that and the other enough. The other was too this, that and the other. But not enough of this other thing. He was perfect with this other thing. Has that thing affected my love map? Has that person affected my love map?  Undoubtedly.  He’s an alpha.  And that’s…

I’m a nice girl, not a bitch.

In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.  This time last year, he told me he had got his shit together.  He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.  We all know this only lasted 2 weeks.  But scrolling through his Facebook page stalking him…

What we’re looking for.

  Trying to work out what I want from a relationship has been tricky, and through making mistakes in dating people, I’ve mainly discovered what I don’t want.  But on Saturday night I figured it out with a friend.  What I want is balance. I want someone who balances with me: They have similar life aspirations They are at…