Why Are We Faking It?

The pay gap’s sister, the orgasm gap, has recently had me thinking. Sexually confident and liberated women all over the world are faking orgasms. Some may be faking it because they don’t know if they’ve climaxed, others fake it so sex ends sooner and others do it because they want to placate the person they’re…

Those Chaotic Twenties…

Those chaotic twenties, characterised by comparison and rumination; when career successes brush up against career panics. And Saturday night’s laughter shape-shifts into Sunday’s regret; as frivolous exploration transforms into ‘unbecoming behaviour’. Through which independence beckons and financial demands loom, yet childhood lurks behind our shoulders. But those chaotic twenties, as love, desire and passion are…

What Are The 5 Languages of Love?

At the beginning of lockdown, I’m sure many of us had grand plans to learn another language and another skill.  Despite my half-arsed efforts, this has not happened.  However, (amongst exploring Kink, Desire and new recesses of Pornhub) I have learnt about the ‘Five Love Languages‘ that help us to have happier relationships with our…

How Does It Feel To Live With An Ex?

Just before lockdown, I broke up with my ex.  It was a strange breakup because we lived together in my home with housemates, so it was always going to be tricky. We took it slow and cared for one another – then a pandemic hit.  Moving back home for lockdown with my family was both…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Day by day.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   D (F), 33. What is your relationship status? Undefined.   Describe your love-life in one word. Jumbled.   Who have you been…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Growing roots.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Shorona, 31. What is your relationship status? Co-habiting.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 8 months and 5…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Man and his best friends.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews. Dougie, 29. What is your relationship status? I’m in an open relationship.   Describe your love-life in one word. Fulfilling.   Who have…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: A newfound love.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Sophie, 31. What is your relationship status? ​ In a long-term relationship.  11 years.  Wow.  Over a decade now.  Feels amazing and…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Discovering the magic.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Miles, 32. What is your relationship status? Complicated.  When I lived in the US, my girlfriend and I got married so I…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: A turn of events.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Anika, 28. What is your relationship status? ​ Getting divorced.   Describe your love-life in one word. ​Non-existent.   Who have you…