Love Stories…

Dolly Alderton is my idol – as all of my frequent readers will know. Her podcast, ‘Love Stories’ fuels my commute, ignites conversations between myself and friends and inspires me to consider my own love stories. And so… (with a few additions) A story of first love. Of course, I could tell you about my…

A cocoon

of auburn hair draped around me and you; hiding us from the world – and softening the needles we jab into each other. Sometimes it feels like a vaccine – or acupuncture; Are we harming each other? Or trying to fix the damage that’s been done? Or maybe we’re hoping to minimise future wounds…

What does your bookshelf say about you?

Do you have a bookcase? Are your books in piles on the floor? Do books feature in every room of the house? Are there any books for ‘loo reading’? Do your books sit on your bedside table? Are your books bleached by the sun? Do you have books of different genres? Are your books organised…

My Love Affair with Pubic Hair

I’ve been thinking about pubic hair a lot recently. Whilst I was single, I endeavoured to keep everything in my pants waxed or Immaced – you know, just in case. (Male friends have said they ‘keep on top of trimming’ when they’re single because they also never know when they’re going to get lucky and…

A different kind of Valentine’s Day.

I’m a feminist but sometimes I worry I’m too independent. I’m surprised at how hard I’ve found it to be in a relationship again. Over the past two years, I have grown and changed and I was so eager to get into a relationship with the right kind of person I worry I’ve steamed ahead…

Broken Boys

Broken Boys You are not a counsellor to heal all the distorted childhoods. You are not a hospital to mend all the broken behaviours. If a boy is damaged, it is not your job to do what his mother did not.Put your heart and soul into loving him, But don’t expect to plaster up the…

When you least expect it.

Everyone always says, ‘you’ll find someone when you least expect it‘. I’ve always disliked this saying; I least expect to find a boyfriend when I’m in Sainsbury’s, with unwashed hair and probably a hormone spot just starting on my jawline. Or when I’m hurriedly filling up with petrol in the pouring rain in converse. Or,…

Everything I knew about love and sex when I was 16. Part 1/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.   Read part 2 (what I know now I’m 26) here. There is such a thing as the perfect man.  He is my boyfriend. Getting a boyfriend is easy – just ask a friend for a boy’s MSN details and start messaging. Sex was…

Colours of our lives

Last week I went to India.  I am writing this at 3am on a Monday morning (UK time) because I can’t shift this jet lag, having only landed at 9pm Sunday night.   For me, one of the most striking aspects of the Indian culture is the colour: sarees, spices and holi abir add a…

I’m not one of those girls…

I’m not one of those girls who enjoys the gym, I’m not one of those girls who’ll have a tonic with gin, I’m not one of those girls who plays ‘hard to get’ I’m looking for someone special – why haven’t I found them yet?   I’m not one of those girls who’ll keep her…