No really, I don’t need you.

I think it’s much better to be wanted than needed.   But is it rude to tell someone you don’t need them?   Here’s why I don’t need you: I can cook I can clean the house I drive myself around I can sort car issues out I have my own social life I’m not…

Just look at me.

For this post, let’s park social anxiety disorders to the side. Stop avoiding eye contact.  Look me in the eye when you talk to me.  Show me you care.  Stop thinking about something else.  Stop thinking about someone else.  Stop thinking about you.  Look at me.  Show me that you fancy me.  Show me the…

A letter to my ex.

Dear You, The summer was confusing.  I missed you and you confessed you still loved me. We nearly met up to see if we could rekindle things.  We didn’t meet – thank God.  Being friends wasn’t going to happen, was it?  At least not yet.  Any anyway, I was seeing someone (admittedly I wasn’t as invested…

The best sex – it’s what you don’t say.

When speaking with a friend recently, we found “let’s come together!” particularly off-putting.  It’s not always easy to orchestrate, you lose focus and think less about your own orgasm and more about being perfectly in sync that you lose any chance of climaxing.   For me, the best sex isn’t just about confidence, attraction and…

Can you be nice and sexy?

This year I’ve learnt that although personality is important, it’s not absolutely crucial and looks are more important than I anticipated. I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now and we’ve progressed into boyfriend / girlfriend territory.  According to mutual friends, he had been keen for a while, so we met at social gatherings,…

Walk away…

I ended things 4 days after my previous post .  We had a fun weekend planned with lots of socialising, but he was late on Friday evening due to a heavy one the previous night.  I spent the weekend being extra bubbling (it’s rare I have 1 social event at the weekend; let-alone 3!) and he…

There’s this grey area…

When discussing my relationship with a friend, she highlighted to me ‘this grey area’.  It’s the time between loving your partner and breaking up with them.  More specifically: It’s the area in which you’re not in love with that person anymore, but the thought of having sex with them doesn’t physically repulse you. This sums…

Nagging for sex?

It was so hot at first; sex at all times of the day no matter what we were doing. Now it tends to be at bedtime, or in the morning. Sometimes I worry he doesn’t really want it, and once I’ve come there’s a sigh of relief and he can get some sleep. Even shower…

Promises

Looking back at older posts, I’m reminded of the promises I made to my future partner (see: I promise). So far I’ve held true to them; I don’t wear scarves to pubs, nor trackies to bars (or ever for that matter), nor do I wear Doc Martins to house parties (probably because I don’t own any)….

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  Last night I was at the pub with my boyfriend and two of his male friends.  During conversation, one of the friends mentioned he’d slept with another guy.  My boyfriend and the other friend were completely shocked; this guy was a self-confessed ‘man-whore’ and slept with many, many women.  The guys posed him with…