Love and Lust in Lockdown: A turn of events.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Anika, 28. What is your relationship status? ​ Getting divorced.   Describe your love-life in one word. ​Non-existent.   Who have you…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Time for one another.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Anon Female, 28. What is your relationship status? ​ Long term relationship.  (7 years).   Describe your love-life in one word. ​Real….

Moving Forward; A’s Letter – Guest Blog

With time and after a few tearful phone calls, A and I have reached a stage of calmness, acceptance and positivity.  Here’s his recent letter to me (you can read his first one, here).  As with the previous letter; A has said I can post it on the blog.   Dear H, First of all,…

A’s love letter – Guest Blog

Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared with him this blog.  It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about.  True to his word, he’s said he doesn’t mind…

Pop

You don’t like it when I mention the breakup; My words pop the bubble you’ve formed around yourself – like a comfort blanket.   No-one’s broken up during a global pandemic before; there are no hard-and-fast rules (not that we were subscribing to rules, but some guidance might be nice).   We’ve been apart for…

Entwined.

So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk.  Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress.  Whilst you felt things were looking better,…

This is how a breakup feels

I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…

Little Silver Linings in a Big Cloud of Shit

Walks, fresh air & sunshine Call with co-workers to stay in the loop Keeping a schedule Computer games Exercising & Yoga Family time Sleeping Productivity Writing Video calls with friends Reading   What are your silver linings made of?   Photo by Brett Sayles from Pexels

“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog

*Guest blog* – In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners.  Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts.   Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I…

My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…