Brighton

Brighton It was here where the family and I enjoyed dinner on one of my many childhood trips to Brighton and the Pier. It was the same place where, 15 years later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. When I first moved to Brighton almost 10 years ago, Uni pals and I frequented this…

What is a “CNC” Kink?

Standing for “consensual non-consent”, CNC is an extreme form of a Total Power Exchange (TPE) dynamic in BDSM play. It’s where two or more people agree that when the submissive(s) says “no”, they actually mean “yes”. CNC is readily confused with rape play (in which consenting adults pre-agree that the Dominant partner will overcome the…

Top 10 Books About Sex

Online and in book stores, there’s no shortage of books about sex. We’re fascinated by it and we all know it sells – and if Fifty Shades of Grey taught us anything it’s that sex doesn’t need to be written well to fly off the shelves. The problem is, though, that good books about sex…

What Should I Have in my Bondage Kit?

So you’re looking to create your very own BDSM Box. Good on you! Bondage kits from sex toy shops are often (coincidentally?) priced at £69.99 and there always seems to be something missing or something you don’t quite know how to use. Here’s a handy guide on what you need in a BDSM kit, whether…

The Dating Profile You Wish You Could Build

When we’re looking for love, we all want to present ourselves in the best light. For some of us, that means picking our favourite selfies with all the filters. For others, it means showing we have friends, don’t only take selfies and have a range of interests. But what if we had no qualms about…

5 ways to get guys to respond on Bumble.

I wrote this five years ago… Considering I’m still on Bumble (and Googled this exact question this morning), I thought I should update the post. I’ve tried nearly all the dating sites and apps out there and Bumble is probably one of the best dating apps.  I’ve successfully managed to talk to guys, convinced them…

Are You Making These 8 Dating App Profile Mistakes?

Online dating is a serious business. Amidst a sea of other profiles, you have to find a way to make your profile stand out for the right reasons – and you probably have three seconds to achieve this. Regular readers of this blog will know I’ve been on (and off, but mainly on) dating apps…

How to Sext – Advice from an Erotic Scriptwriter

Much of the advice you’ll read about how to sext will be geared towards people in a relationship. In some ways a relationship is the perfect set-up for a sexy text: Two (or more) people who know each other intimately + Trust + Guarantee of seeing each other again = Hot texts that hit the…

Consent can be Sexy – it can also be a Mood-Killer

What do you do when someone asks you for consent and it kills your vibe? Should you sort your attitude out and be pleased they checked in? Or is it reasonable to want consent to be acquired in a sexy manner? IMHO, consent can be considered part of foreplay; warming each other up, both getting…

I Tried the New Dating App, Thursday. Here’s What Happened.

Anyone who reads this blog regularly knows I’ve been on and off dating apps for the best part of 200 years. I’ve tried Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Feeld, Happ’n, Coffee Meets Bagel, Her, Plenty of Fish, Match.com, eHarmony – and now, Thursday. In the world of dating apps, Thursday is shaking things up. Rather than be…