Entwined.

So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk.  Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress.  Whilst you felt things were looking better,…

This is how a breakup feels

I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 2)

(Read Stage 1 here) Prior to a video consultation with the fertility doctor, there was a barrage of forms to fill in and a video to watch and understand. Some of the forms included: consent for the clinic to use my personal information an extensive medical questionnaire a ‘welfare of the child’ quiz : will…

Dating in the time of corona.

We’re all inside.  We’re all watching far too much TV and I’m sure some of us are eating far too many biscuits.  And it’s becoming very evident that a lot of people are on dating apps; certainly more than usual. In fact, this week a friend shared an article with me that said: On the…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 1)

In some ways, the lockdown doesn’t stop life going on.  Yes, we’re working from home (see here for my top tips for staying sane and productive).  Yes, we’re cancelling dentist appointments and hair cuts, but in many ways, we’re adapting not stopping. And some things won’t fix themselves.  All the time I wait and don’t…

Little Silver Linings in a Big Cloud of Shit

Walks, fresh air & sunshine Call with co-workers to stay in the loop Keeping a schedule Computer games Exercising & Yoga Family time Sleeping Productivity Writing Video calls with friends Reading   What are your silver linings made of?   Photo by Brett Sayles from Pexels

8 Pillars of Joy in the Time of the Coronavirus

Last summer, I read a book called ‘The Book of Joy‘ by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu, edited by Douglas Abrams.  In it, these two spiritual and religious men identified 8 Pillars of Joy; 4 for the mind and 4 for the heart.  During this time of global depression, anxiety and uncertainty, I’m trying…

“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog

*Guest blog* – In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners.  Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts.   Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I…

Write with Rupi

On Friday evening 9,000 people tuned into Rupi Kaur’s IG Live for a writing workshop.  I wasn’t sure what to expect but I was so engaged that the hour whizzed by; possibly the fastest hour of the week in quarantine. There were moments I found myself feeling emotional about the workshop; with the virus impacting…

My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…