10 things that go through my mind before a first date:

10 things that go through my mind before a first date: What if I don’t fancy him? What if he doesn’t turn up? What if he’s rude / arrogant / mute [delete as appropriate]? What if he turns up late and I’m already 2 glasses down? What if I really like him and he doesn’t…

Like a cat.

Like a cat, I spread out in the hot sun. My fur: freshly washed and Moroccan oiled;  my tail gently curling. No pressures on this day, only the promise of warm sunlight until sunset.   Drifting in and out of dream, my breath steadies. My limbs stretch and my whiskers twitch.  

Single and Mingle Night

I thought it couldn’t get worse than Speed Dating.  Turns out, it can! Last week, a friend invited me to a Single and Mingle night in Brighton.  She was going with her housemate and we all agreed it could be crap, but we wouldn’t know unless we went (and we’d never find a boyfriend sat…

Are we all players?

Here are some snippets of conversations I’ve heard 20-something men have when I’ve been out and about in London and Brighton.  Food for thought…? Guys claim women are more likely to be players now.  Guys hate that ‘women hold the power’.  They reckon some girls only want a guy if she can see he has…

Thank you!

This is a GREAT, BIG ‘THANK YOU!’ to all the people who read, like, comment on and follow this blog.  I have hit 200 followers and I’m thrilled.  Even though I’ve been blogging for a couple of years, this is a totally anonymous blog with no social media promoting, so people have found this blog…

Speed Dating: Do’s and Don’ts

Do go with a friend.  You can be apprehensive in the cab together and share stories on your way home. Don’t tell many people you’re going speed-dating; they’ll all want to know how it was after and, if it was crap, you’ll find yourself retelling the same story over and over, each time fashioning it…

These hands

These hands these hands – adorned with silver, gold and opal – twitch with a need for touch they tingle for intimacy my fingertips hold yours; will you be around for long enough for me to learn their print?   the lick of varnish applied before rousing Friday nights wears off by Monday morning; telling of…

History repeating itself.

There was instant attraction between the first guy and I. It happened once, then it happened again, and again and again. Love developed (at least on my side). Sadly, this man had someone else. Of course she was is a sexy Spaniard – he is was a marvelous Mancunian. An attraction based on friendship, fuelled by…

Runaway Bride

The penny has finally dropped.  It’s taken a year of hard learning, but I’ve got there. Things are usually so easy with The Bar Man; we both know how casual our relationship is and our evening started as it always has done.  As good friends do, we spent time catching up over a glass of…

“I hope it wasn’t too weird :)”

Last weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I had met IRL rather than through a dating app.  (The first date I’ve had of this sort since July when I met The Wrong Guy).  When we first met, he was fun, flirty, confident and attractive, so I asked if he wanted to…

Ten Tips on Fuck Buddies

Location, location, location.  You’ll never manage to meet up if you live 45 minutes away from one another. Keep it simple.  Sex at either one of your houses is perfect.  Trying to find someone else for a threesome complicates things.  Asking your buddy to join them at a fetish club is weird.  Simplicity is key….