There’s No Safe Way to Choke Someone

If I told you that some people get a kick out of being choked or choking someone during sex, would you raise your eyebrows or smirk? Maybe you’re into it, you’ve seen it in porn – or perhaps it’s been done to you when you didn’t ask for it. Choking is becoming increasingly common in…

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What Happens When I Orgasm?

Is it a sex blog without a post about orgasms? Well, yes, because otherwise the past decade of writing has been futile. But it’s about time I wrote about the Big O. What is it? What happens in our brains and bodies? And how do we have more of them? Warning: it’s a sciencey piece….

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4 Ways to Make Time for Sex

When you’re living with a partner, sex can suffer. There’s no longer the eager anticipation of weekend visits to each other’s homes with ample time to scrub, shave and moisturise in the preceding days. Instead, you’re sharing a bathroom… Then, add life stressors, children and comfort to the mix. See how easily sex slides down…

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“Do You Want This?” Did I Want My Babygirl Relationship?

If only Babygirl had been filmed and released during Covid, like Netflix’s erotic thriller, 365 Days. Maybe I would’ve taken the movie as a cautionary tale and avoided the naive BDSM relationship I had with Simon*. Or, more likely, I would have found the film terribly enticing and fallen into bed with the sexy Dom…

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What to Say Instead of Ghosting Someone

You’ve just started dating someone but aren’t really feeling it anymore. Maybe you’ve got the ick, found someone more suited to you, or you’re no longer in the headspace to date. Ghosting makes light work of this: cutting communication without explanation is so much easier than sending a message and risking an awkward or difficult…

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Things Said in Private

Prince Charming and I are watching the newest season of Married at First Sight Australia (MAFSA). We didn’t want to. We promised we’d skip lots. But now we almost look forward to it each evening. Fast-forward the recaps and teasers, whizz through the lovey-dovey couples and get to the good stuff. In this week’s Commitment…

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A Single Girl’s Guide to Valentine’s Day

Since I started dating at 14 years old, I’ve spent more Valentine’s Days single than coupled. I used to dread Valentine’s Day (“full of smug, happy couples,” as Bridget Jones might say) – it was a stark reminder that I was single, all alone, with no one to love and be loved by… But I…

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The Rise and Fall of Dating Apps

It’s Friday afternoon and I’m messaging a guy I’ve been chatting with for a while. We haven’t met but he’s obsessed with me being a sex writer. Sometimes, our conversation feels like death by questions, but when other conversations are dragging, I can rely on having a message from this guy. As I’m typing my…

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Holiday Sex

You’re heading on holiday with your partner. Your destination is adults-only, has a private hot tub, and has a floor-to-ceiling window with an impressive view. You’re going to have so much sex. What do you pack? Condoms, lube, sexy lingerie, obviously. How about that new sex toy you’ve both been meaning to try? Or that…

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