Notice a Fuckboy before it’s too late.

Following on from the gallery text, Mr Threesome was seeming more genuine and I was feeling hopeful.  I was looking forward to our arty date and was being lulled into a false sense that this guy wanted a girlfriend rather than just a hook-up.  On Thursday afternoon, he messaged to suggest we change plans as Central London would be very busy with Pride going on and how about we go for drinks in the evening or do something on Sunday..?

At least he didn’t out-right cancel.

I had a better idea: he could come to Brighton for drinks on the beach in the sunshine.

What followed was a series of messages about how he couldn’t be arsed to make the hour-long journey because he works long hours and travels a lot in the week and it’s a bit of an effort for a first date.

I work long hours.  I travel a lot.  And yet you expect me to come to London?

Grovelling text after grovelling text.  I completely ignored him and blocked his number.


I’m glad he was honest and I’m relieved I didn’t make the mistake of meeting him, but I’m quite surprised at his candour.  Most guys would cancel last minute or not turn up, but Mr Threesome admitted he couldn’t be bothered to come to me.

Was he being cunning; expecting me to argue and then hope the date would be cancelled anyway?

Was he being big-headed and expecting me to chase after him just so I could meet this Adonis?

Either way, our date would have been a waste of time.  I’m glad I noticed this early before wasting any more time on someone who would inevitably be another Fuckboy.


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12 Comments Add yours

  1. Giulia says:

    Well done you!! Saved yourself a lot of wasted time there!

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  2. He probably figured out that you were out of his league and likely would have rejected him. Nobody’s going to tell you that: he gave you an excuse that would make him look lazy – better than looking weak and cowardly.

    Or, he could just be a lazy and selfish.


    1. Let’s hope it’s the first 😉

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    2. Grace says:

      I think people are being way too harsh about this. From my understanding you were going to go London to see him? Then he said art gallery? But then pride happened, and it was rammed. So I’m assuming the plan went back to drinks, but you said Brighton? And he said that he works really long hours and travels a lot in the week so he didn’t want to go all the way to Brighton? Maybe that’s just the truth though. It’s not about fuck boy thing and stuff. It’s literally hes exhausted. I had a long term thing with a girl and she used to work and travel alot and I know she was the same at weekends. From my experience with guys they are normally very sly and good at lying but seems to have just told you the truth here. I guess my message is, which helped me find love, it’s not about jumping to conclusions but it’s trying to empathise with that person’s lifestyle and situation.

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  3. Grace says:

    I was at pride on Saturday and it was rammed there… I also used to work long hours in the week and travel hours a day, if you do it, over a long period and its actually draining and the last thing you want to do is travel far on the weekend. I like your blog been reading it alot, but seems like he might have just been telling the truth


    1. Thanks for reading and following. I fully appreciate that he probably was telling the truth, but I didn’t want to waste time with someone who wasn’t prepared to make an equal effort, especially as he was starting to seem like a fuckboy with all the sex chat. Thanks for commenting x


  4. Crystal says:

    Death to the fuckboys! Well not actual death, but death to their behavior lol!

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    1. There’s too many Fuckboys about and we need to show them it’s not okay.

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      1. Crystal says:

        Yes!!! Good for you for having the strength and boldness to block him. I think a lot of women struggle with that.

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      2. Thank you 🙂 Mainly because of plenty of bad experiences, but clearly I’m learning a lesson.

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      3. Crystal says:

        Yea it took me a while to learn that lesson. I feel bad for the girls who think they can turn a fuckboy into a husband.

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      4. I think it can happen, but very rarely.

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