Even the nice guys can act like dicks.

In the space of 18 hours, everything I wrote in this last post can be ignored. For the same reasons as why anyone calls their fuck buddy, I contacted The Bar Man last week.  We hooked up and it was fun to see him. Although I knew the new man would not be ‘The One’, I…

10 things that go through my mind before a first date:

10 things that go through my mind before a first date: What if I don’t fancy him? What if he doesn’t turn up? What if he’s rude / arrogant / mute [delete as appropriate]? What if he turns up late and I’m already 2 glasses down? What if I really like him and he doesn’t…

Speed Dating: Do’s and Don’ts

Do go with a friend.  You can be apprehensive in the cab together and share stories on your way home. Don’t tell many people you’re going speed-dating; they’ll all want to know how it was after and, if it was crap, you’ll find yourself retelling the same story over and over, each time fashioning it…

“I hope it wasn’t too weird :)”

Last weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I had met IRL rather than through a dating app.  (The first date I’ve had of this sort since July when I met The Wrong Guy).  When we first met, he was fun, flirty, confident and attractive, so I asked if he wanted to…

“She’s hot”

When asking male friends about the girl they are newly dating, they immediately tell me how hot (or not) she is.  Initially, the guys rate her value based on how attractive they find her, not how suited her personality is to their own personalities.  I want to hear what she’s like, what her interests are…

Please don’t be a Fuckboy.

I seem to have the same conversation with myself at least three times a year. I may as well cancel this date, he’s bound to be as shit as the rest. Don’t be silly, just go.  You never know. Wow, he’s so lovely.  I’m so chuffed I went.  Fingers crossed he’ll text! Who cares if…

Date Week continued

So I went on the date. I was going to cancel but my friend convinced me otherwise.  I’m thrilled I didn’t cancel.  What a guy! Instant, mutual attraction. We have lots in common and the conversation flowed beautifully. He didn’t agree with everything I had to say; he challenged me and we discussed things. He made…

Date Week

1 – First online blind date in a while. I feel excited for this one (he’s attractive in his photos and he seems fun). He doesn’t really look like his photos and he doesn’t seem like he’d be much fun. I don’t think he fancies me; he doesn’t look me in the eyes very often….

Have a successful date – avoid these 5 habits.

Bullshit – some guys never text or show interest in you, and then when you do meet up, they say how much they missed you…  ` A 15-minute monologue over dinner – please take a moment outside of your head and realise you are talking about yourself, non-stop.  Please ask me questions and actually listen…