How Does It Feel To Live With An Ex?

Just before lockdown, I broke up with my ex.  It was a strange breakup because we lived together in my home with housemates, so it was always going to be tricky. We took it slow and cared for one another – then a pandemic hit.  Moving back home for lockdown with my family was both…

Kickass Women 2.0 – A Ray of Hope

For many of us right now, the future is uncertain.  Markets are crashing, businesses are closing and there is a great deal of (understandable) negativity. And whilst I don’t wish to underestimate the gravitas of the global situation, over the weekend I found a little ray of hope in my corner of the world.  In…

Things to consider before a career change

So the job you’re doing isn’t ‘sparking joy’.  You’ve reached the maximum happiness output you feel you’ll achieve and the job isn’t all you hoped it would be.  Maybe you’re worried you’ll be wasting your (£9,000 if you’re lucky, but more likely £27,000) BSc, your PGCE or your Masters (and an additional £9,000).  Maybe you’re…

Successes and Failures – Part 1 of 3

As the year draws to an end, we often reflect on our accomplishments and failures of the past 12 months.  We might be particularly proud of a promotion, or an engagement or reaching out to a forgotten friend.  Or maybe we missed opportunities and look back at the year with a hint of regret, but…

Self-care and What a Time to be Alone.

Choose yourself. Over and over again. Even when you’ve let yourself down. Choose yourself. Even when it feels uncomfortable. Choose yourself. Even when you’re tired. Choose yourself. Chidera Eggerue When things aren’t going to plan, it’s more crucial than ever to love and care for yourself.  I’m still on the path of a career change,…

When The Guilty Feminist came to Brighton

As my readers will know, I LOVE Deborah Frances-White and her podcast, ‘The Guilty Feminist’.  Well, now she’s written a book of the same name and her book tour ended in Brighton.  You can buy Deborah’s book from Waterstones here.  My friend and fellow blogger joined me for an evening of giggles, roaring laughter and…

Even the nice guys can act like dicks.

In the space of 18 hours, everything I wrote in this last post can be ignored. For the same reasons as why anyone calls their fuck buddy, I contacted The Bar Man last week.  We hooked up and it was fun to see him. Although I knew the new man would not be ‘The One’, I…

Him and Her

The curve of her stomach The softness of her thighs The intention of her touch The memory of her kiss And the thought of her clit. The bike oil on his calves The hirsuteness of his chest The roughness of his handing The reality of his touch And the thought of her clit.

Food for Friends for One.

Front of house: ‘Hello Darling.  How many of you are there?’ Me: ‘Just me.  A table for one, please.’ Front of house: ‘I’ll be one moment; I’ll get a good table for you.’   Friends, families and couples.  And me and my Le Debut. Today I’ll fall in love in love with mirin tofu and…

The passion she found in that room.

She thought it would be tricky to get along with him that night; this arrogant, sexist man. He reminded her of when she was younger – more naive, more accepting of men’s chauvinistic remarks. Maybe this kindled a yearning for her youth? His girlfriend was at home, she wasn’t known to her.   His presence…