Everything I know about love and sex now I’m 26. Part 2/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.  See Part 1/2 here. Nice guys are hard to come by. If you spend the entirety of your teenage years in ONE long-term committed relationship by the time you turn 21, you won’t know how to talk to a boy you like, flirt,…

Everything I knew about love and sex when I was 16. Part 1/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.   Read part 2 (what I know now I’m 26) here. There is such a thing as the perfect man.  He is my boyfriend. Getting a boyfriend is easy – just ask a friend for a boy’s MSN details and start messaging. Sex was…

Sex and loneliness: The Italian and The South African.

The loneliness I’ve sporadically felt over the past few years has clouded my judgments.  Often, I’ve approached experiences with the attitude of, ‘that’ll make a good chapter for the book!’ and so I do it anyway.  Of course, this is why I kept seeing The Bar Man.  Until recently, I’ve been using sex as a…

Late at night

Do you text them late at night like you do to me? Do you whisper sweet nothings of what you both could be? Do you show off your cocktail flair then caress their legs and their hair? Do you drink as much with them, ‘though you’ve only gone over at ten? Do you plant kisses…

Him and Her

The curve of her stomach The softness of her thighs The intention of her touch The memory of her kiss And the thought of her clit. The bike oil on his calves The hirsuteness of his chest The roughness of his handing The reality of his touch And the thought of her clit.

And then they went upstairs…

She thought there’d be an awkward air; the tension of a dirty secret.  She thought there’d be naughty glances and nothing more.  How wrong she was. The girl came bounding in: full of life – a bottle of prosecco in hand.  Within five minutes it was clear there were memories filled with lust in both…

The passion she found in that room.

She thought it would be tricky to get along with him that night; this arrogant, sexist man. He reminded her of when she was younger – more naive, more accepting of men’s chauvinistic remarks. Maybe this kindled a yearning for her youth? His girlfriend was at home, she wasn’t known to her.   His presence…

If I’d have known…

To Younger Me, You’re 16 and you need to know it’s not gonna go how you plan.  You won’t be with this man forever; he’ll surprise and disappoint you and resurface like those sparkly hot pants you forgot you had.  When you leave him you’ll be lost.  But you’ll work out it’s how you find…

The Dating Game

Being a single female in 2018 is tough. I’ve been playing the game, with lots of different opponents, for a year and still haven’t won. It seems for every ‘move forward three spaces’, my next turn resulted in me moving back a space. When will this game end?!

Colours of our lives

Last week I went to India.  I am writing this at 3am on a Monday morning (UK time) because I can’t shift this jet lag, having only landed at 9pm Sunday night.   For me, one of the most striking aspects of the Indian culture is the colour: sarees, spices and holi abir add a…