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“Do You Want This?” Did I Want My Babygirl Relationship?

If only Babygirl had been filmed and released during Covid, like Netflix’s erotic thriller, 365 Days. Maybe I would’ve taken the movie as a cautionary tale and avoided the naive BDSM relationship I had with Simon*. Or, more likely, I would have found the film terribly enticing and fallen into bed with the sexy Dom…

So You’re Into S&M? Meet Your Toolkit

Enjoy spanking, hair pulling and playing with power dynamics in the bedroom? Maybe you have a kink for S&M. S&M stands for sadism and masochism – though it’s often referred to as sadomasochism. It’s a sexual kink or fetish based on control and consensually giving or inflicting pain for pleasure. Sadism is the act of…

Topping from the Bottom

You might have heard the phrase “topping from the bottom” (thanks, Fifty Shades of Grey…) and wondered what it means. Maybe you’re confused about how “topping” differs from “domming” and whether you can bottom from the top, dom from the bottom or top as a Dom – and then your knickers are really in a…

BDSM Glossary (N-Z) (NSFW & 18+)

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog in September 2021. I have since expanded the BDSM Glossary below. Most recent update: September 2024. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field…

BDSM Glossary (A-M) (NSFW & 18+)

Casual to Serious: Can it Ever Work?

Trigger Warning: This post relays scenes of rough, BDSM sex. Consensual but rough. Your mother will likely tell you that you can’t build a loving relationship from a casual hook-up. You’ll likely ignore her and be convinced this is possible in 2021 – after all, Becky and Andy started off shagging and look, they’re now…

Another Glossary of BDSM Terms

Recently I published a Glossary for BDSM after a poll on my Instagram showed followers were unsure about some of the common BDSM acronyms. Fellow kink blogger, Helen, commented with additional terms prevalent in the BDSM community. Whilst my original glossary was never meant to be an Ultimate Guide, we’re blogging to educate so what…

How to Broach BDSM with your Partner

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve found your way to Torture Garden’s website, so the chances are you’re interested in the…

A Glossary for BDSM

Have you come across terms in articles, blog posts or on dating apps that you’re sure are sexual but you’re apprehensive to Google them? Let me provide a glossary to help you understand what on Earth is going on… (In no way is this an expansive list – this has come about by followers on…

The Art of a D/s Relationship

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. Anyone can boss someone around, dishing out rewards and punishments but engaging in a D/s (Dominant/submissive)…