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BDSM Glossary (N-Z) (NSFW & 18+)

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog in September 2021. I have since expanded the BDSM Glossary below. Most recent update: September 2024. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field…

BDSM Glossary (A-M) (NSFW & 18+)

Attachment, Love Languages and Erotic Blueprints

We all know our upbringing and life experiences shape how we interact with the world – from how we deal with adversity to how we forge relationships (and everything in between) – so it’s no surprise psychologists are on a mission to understand this behaviour. In 1969, John Bowlby’s pioneering work constructed the theory of…

The Joker

The Joker In they come from the rain. Dripping, adjusting, furrowed brows softening. Peeling off layers, rearranging, shaking heads of fluffy hair. In they come from the rain. Water puddles, hoods dribble, wallets found – menus coveted. In they come from the rain. Pints in hand, orders placed. To the warmth of The Joker, in…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 7)

It’s nearly October and we’re reaching the end of the first leg of this journey. So far, I’ve broken my fertility story into six stages: you can read Stage 6 here, Stage 5 here, Stage 4 here, Stage 3 here, Stage 2 here and, first, Stage 1. For me, the final stage has been egg…

What to Expect at The Pearl Necklace

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’re hovering over the “Book Now” button thinking, “Should I? Shouldn’t I?” Yes, you should. Then…

Taking Your First Steps into BDSM

A former version of this post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve managed to broach the topic of BDSM with your partner, well…

Bibi does…Brighton, with Calandra and Tim

This summer, on one of Brighton’s few hot evenings of the year, 30-odd sweaty foreheads and hastily-foraged freestanding fans bundled into Amy’s Room for another night of Bibi Lynch’s comedy chat show. This time hosted with local journalist Tracey Davies, Bibi spoke with Brighton’s iconic husband-and-wife duo, Tim Richardson and Calandra Balfour about their story,…

A Sestina for “Matthew”*

I never met a man who was quite so confident in himself. The way he took charge of me shrouded his deep insecurity. Yet lying in the hotel bed, I lay with a man full of hurt, who believed life had not been kind to him and it had made him hard. Reader, he divulged…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 6)

I’ve been injecting for 11 days. On the 13th, I began injecting a solution containing follicle-stimulating hormones (FSH) and luteinizing hormones (LH) every evening to help my ovaries grow follicles (fluid-filled sacs in which eggs grow). And from the 17th, I also started to inject a solution in the morning (between 7am and 9am) to…