The Art of a D/s Relationship

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. Anyone can boss someone around, dishing out rewards and punishments but engaging in a D/s (Dominant/submissive)…

Sex Podcasts

There’s a podcast for everything, meaning, there’s a podcast for everyone. And although I’m no longer driving to work each day (and therefore don’t listen to podcasts as much as I used to), I still try and catch up on my favourite ones. Some are hilarious, others inspiring, and some spark an idea for a…

Love Lessons from a Pandemic

We’ve all gone through stages of having a list of what we need and what we want from a partner. We may have added to the list over the years or detracted from it. Perhaps we scrunched up the paper and chucked it in the bin because someone came along who fit none of our…

Battlefield

The battlefield behind you
tells not of bloodied corpses
but of poppies;
each poppy a lesson learnt
from a romance
or a dalliance.

To navigate this war zone
you’ve used intuition and strategy –

Why I Write About Sex

When I started this blog at the age of 21 (I am now 28), I wanted to write about my experiences of sex, dating and relationships because what I wanted to find out and talk about regarding sex wasn’t available in the magazines I was reading, the porn I was watching or the websites I…

What Are The 5 Languages of Love?

At the beginning of lockdown, I’m sure many of us had grand plans to learn another language and another skill.  Despite my half-arsed efforts, this has not happened.  However, (amongst exploring Kink, Desire and new recesses of Pornhub) I have learnt about the ‘Five Love Languages‘ that help us to have happier relationships with our…

THANK YOU

Old followers will know I’ve been writing for years; new followers will soon realise I have tonnes of posts about love, lust and loss.  Whilst most of my posts come from personal lived experiences, it’s an absolute joy when others are happy (or at least willing) to feature in my blog. So thank you to…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Self-improvement.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   George, 30. What is your relationship status? Single.   Describe your love-life in one word. Wondering.   Who have you been quarantining…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Day by day.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   D (F), 33. What is your relationship status? Undefined.   Describe your love-life in one word. Jumbled.   Who have you been…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Growing roots.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Shorona, 31. What is your relationship status? Co-habiting.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 8 months and 5…