What Love Island Teaches us About Modern Dating.

Love Island has become the zeitgeist of dating for Millennials and Post-Millennials in Britain. For a few years, I rejected the series; overtly judging my sisters for wasting so much of their week aimlessly watching obscenely buff guys pursue small, toned, big-breasted women who fawn over one guy and then the next. I couldn’t understand…

10 things you should probably do to maintain a new relationship.

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the hard part of ‘will he, won’t he?’ is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bare them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….

The first time I shouted at you

it had been nearly six months.You weren’t to know (and it wasn’t your fault)but I’d been in constant pain for weeks,and it was getting me down.On it, I blamed my limp libidoand our absence of sex.In reality, it’s a culmination of your irritating habits and my irritability.Why do you try to wind me up,when you…

Love Stories…

Dolly Alderton is my idol – as all of my frequent readers will know. Her podcast, ‘Love Stories’ fuels my commute, ignites conversations between myself and friends and inspires me to consider my own love stories. And so… (with a few additions) A story of first love. Of course, I could tell you about my…

A cocoon

of auburn hair draped around me and you; hiding us from the world – and softening the needles we jab into each other. Sometimes it feels like a vaccine – or acupuncture; Are we harming each other? Or trying to fix the damage that’s been done? Or maybe we’re hoping to minimise future wounds…

What does your bookshelf say about you?

Do you have a bookcase? Are your books in piles on the floor? Do books feature in every room of the house? Are there any books for ‘loo reading’? Do your books sit on your bedside table? Are your books bleached by the sun? Do you have books of different genres? Are your books organised…

Books every single girl should read

What better way to deal with feeling fed-up, lonely and pissed off than getting lost in a book?! Inspired by my darling friend and future novelist, here are my top 9 to help you through these times: 1) The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho: For when you’re feeling lost This beautiful short book is a perfect…

Broken Boys

Broken Boys You are not a counsellor to heal all the distorted childhoods. You are not a hospital to mend all the broken behaviours. If a boy is damaged, it is not your job to do what his mother did not.Put your heart and soul into loving him, But don’t expect to plaster up the…

Self-care and What a Time to be Alone.

Choose yourself. Over and over again. Even when you’ve let yourself down. Choose yourself. Even when it feels uncomfortable. Choose yourself. Even when you’re tired. Choose yourself. Chidera Eggerue When things aren’t going to plan, it’s more crucial than ever to love and care for yourself.  I’m still on the path of a career change,…

Everything I know about love and sex now I’m 26. Part 2/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.  See Part 1/2 here. Nice guys are hard to come by. If you spend the entirety of your teenage years in ONE long-term committed relationship by the time you turn 21, you won’t know how to talk to a boy you like, flirt,…