The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around. Their phones turned down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons. A quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on. When the food comes…
Tag: love
Successes and Failures – Part 3 of 3
You can find Part 1 here and Part 2 here. My darling best friend spent a long time considering his successes and failures and sent me a very long message. Wishing to do it justice, I’ve decided to write it out as he shared it with me so it maintains his voice and the eloquence…
The Music of Love
Music can evoke different emotions; it can make us feel connected with people. It can bring back memories. Can we map a piece of music or a genre of music onto our relationships? A while ago, I wrote about the colours of our relationships. Now, I’m wondering about the music of our lovers. Over Christmas…
5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument
So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…
Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…
Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’. It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…
Two cups, not one.
If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…
The nephrostomy fitting.
Image from Nursing Times. Lying on my stomach with my hands above my head, I wasn’t worried. (Nine people in the room seemed more than necessary for a conscious kidney procedure, but I was introduced to all the focused, smiling faces.) The consultant said there’d be no pain, only when the local anaesthetic was injected…
Porn
For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn. In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn. So, here goes: Photo by Charles 🇵🇭 on Unsplash Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss. Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also…
60 years.
In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages – two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear…
Working Bookstack
My working bookstack: These are the books currently informing my writing. Some have been in the stack for years (the wrong knickers, milk and honey, the sun and her flowers) because they provide new inspiration on each opening. Others are added to my over-flowing bookshelves once I’ve worked through my annotations (e.g. Polly Vernon’s ‘Hot…
