Everything I know about love and sex now I’m 26. Part 2/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.  See Part 1/2 here. Nice guys are hard to come by. If you spend the entirety of your teenage years in ONE long-term committed relationship by the time you turn 21, you won’t know how to talk to a boy you like, flirt,…

Everything I knew about love and sex when I was 16. Part 1/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.   Read part 2 (what I know now I’m 26) here. There is such a thing as the perfect man.  He is my boyfriend. Getting a boyfriend is easy – just ask a friend for a boy’s MSN details and start messaging. Sex was…

Sex and loneliness: The Italian and The South African.

The loneliness I’ve sporadically felt over the past few years has clouded my judgments.  Often, I’ve approached experiences with the attitude of, ‘that’ll make a good chapter for the book!’ and so I do it anyway.  Of course, this is why I kept seeing The Bar Man.  Until recently, I’ve been using sex as a…

8 Things I Trust In:

  Because I’m human, some of these beliefs are contradictory – I apologise. I trust that things happen for a reason. This is so easy to believe when things are going right.  But I’ve realised it’s more important to trust things happen for a reason when life isn’t going to plan.  And to believe it…

The Dating Game

Being a single female in 2018 is tough. I’ve been playing the game, with lots of different opponents, for a year and still haven’t won. It seems for every ‘move forward three spaces’, my next turn resulted in me moving back a space. When will this game end?!

Colours of our lives

Last week I went to India.  I am writing this at 3am on a Monday morning (UK time) because I can’t shift this jet lag, having only landed at 9pm Sunday night.   For me, one of the most striking aspects of the Indian culture is the colour: sarees, spices and holi abir add a…

Are we all players?

Here are some snippets of conversations I’ve heard 20-something men have when I’ve been out and about in London and Brighton.  Food for thought…? Guys claim women are more likely to be players now.  Guys hate that ‘women hold the power’.  They reckon some girls only want a guy if she can see he has…

These hands

These hands these hands – adorned with silver, gold and opal – twitch with a need for touch they tingle for intimacy my fingertips hold yours; will you be around for long enough for me to learn their print?   the lick of varnish applied before rousing Friday nights wears off by Monday morning; telling of…

Opposites.

What do I want? One was not this, that and the other enough. The other was too this, that and the other. But not enough of this other thing. He was perfect with this other thing. Has that thing affected my love map? Has that person affected my love map?  Undoubtedly.  He’s an alpha.  And that’s…

I’m a nice girl, not a bitch.

In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.  This time last year, he told me he had got his shit together.  He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.  We all know this only lasted 2 weeks.  But scrolling through his Facebook page stalking him…