Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

Two cups, not one.

If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…

The nephrostomy fitting.

Image from Nursing Times. Lying on my stomach with my hands above my head, I wasn’t worried.  (Nine people in the room seemed more than necessary for a conscious kidney procedure, but I was introduced to all the focused, smiling faces.)  The consultant said there’d be no pain, only when the local anaesthetic was injected…

Porn

For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn.  In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn.  So, here goes: Photo by Charles 🇵🇭 on Unsplash Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss.  Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also…

60 years.

In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages – two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear…

Working Bookstack

My working bookstack: These are the books currently informing my writing.  Some have been in the stack for years (the wrong knickers, milk and honey, the sun and her flowers) because they provide new inspiration on each opening.  Others are added to my over-flowing bookshelves once I’ve worked through my annotations (e.g. Polly Vernon’s ‘Hot…

What Love Island Teaches us About Modern Dating.

Love Island has become the zeitgeist of dating for Millennials and Post-Millennials in Britain. For a few years, I rejected the series; overtly judging my sisters for wasting so much of their week aimlessly watching obscenely buff guys pursue small, toned, big-breasted women who fawn over one guy and then the next. I couldn’t understand…

10 things you should probably do to maintain a new relationship.

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the hard part of ‘will he, won’t he?’ is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bare them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….

The first time I shouted at you

it had been nearly six months. You weren’t to know (and it wasn’t your fault) but I’d been in constant pain for weeks, and it was getting me down. On it, I blamed my limp libido and our absence of sex. In reality, it’s a culmination of your irritating habits and my irritability. Why do…

Love Stories…

Dolly Alderton is my idol – as all of my frequent readers will know. Her podcast, ‘Love Stories’ fuels my commute, ignites conversations between myself and friends and inspires me to consider my own love stories. And so… (with a few additions) A story of first love. Of course, I could tell you about my…