Life’s complicated, which makes sex complicated — even, or especially, with someone you’ve been in a relationship with for a while. We don’t always want sex every day, or in the same way each time we do have sex, so why should we presume our partner wants the same kind of sex each time? At…
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Sex Toys for Beginners
I’ve been writing for Lovehoney for the best part of a year, and in that time, I’ve written about a lot of sex toys. Scouring countless product reviews and honest accounts on the Lovehoney Forum, I’ve got the inside scoop on the sex toys getting the nation off. You’ve probably heard of dildos, vibrators and…
A Sexy Playlist – part 1
What songs get you in the mood? Do you opt for a sensual genre or seek a particular song? I whack on my “Me and You” playlist. (I’m a serial shuffler, so there’s no order to it. Life’s too busy to think about BPM.) I first published this sexy playlist about 5 years ago. Since…
There’s No Safe Way to Choke Someone
If I told you that some people get a kick out of being choked or choking someone during sex, would you raise your eyebrows or smirk? Maybe you’re into it, you’ve seen it in porn – or perhaps it’s been done to you when you didn’t ask for it. Choking is becoming increasingly common in…
What Happens When I Orgasm?
Is it a sex blog without a post about orgasms? Well, yes, because otherwise the past decade of writing has been futile. But it’s about time I wrote about the Big O. What is it? What happens in our brains and bodies? And how do we have more of them? Warning: it’s a sciencey piece….
4 Ways to Make Time for Sex
When you’re living with a partner, sex can suffer. There’s no longer the eager anticipation of weekend visits to each other’s homes with ample time to scrub, shave and moisturise in the preceding days. Instead, you’re sharing a bathroom… Then, add life stressors, children and comfort to the mix. See how easily sex slides down…
What to Say Instead of Ghosting Someone
You’ve just started dating someone but aren’t really feeling it anymore. Maybe you’ve got the ick, found someone more suited to you, or you’re no longer in the headspace to date. Ghosting makes light work of this: cutting communication without explanation is so much easier than sending a message and risking an awkward or difficult…
The Rise and Fall of Dating Apps
It’s Friday afternoon and I’m messaging a guy I’ve been chatting with for a while. We haven’t met but he’s obsessed with me being a sex writer. Sometimes, our conversation feels like death by questions, but when other conversations are dragging, I can rely on having a message from this guy. As I’m typing my…
Holiday Sex
You’re heading on holiday with your partner. Your destination is adults-only, has a private hot tub, and has a floor-to-ceiling window with an impressive view. You’re going to have so much sex. What do you pack? Condoms, lube, sexy lingerie, obviously. How about that new sex toy you’ve both been meaning to try? Or that…
Even More Sex Toys for Couples, And How to Use Them
Jingling into week three, the Lovehoney Advent Calendar delivered sensual toys for solo and partnered play – with a few spicier items thrown in. Body massager Day 15’s box contained a body massager with an ergonomic handle and different-sized nodules for targeted pressure that work deep into the muscles. IMHO, it’s the best gift yet…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 