What do women fantasise about? Gillian Anderson’s hotly anticipated new book “Want” is a collection of 174 sexual fantasies of women from around the world. Published in September 2024, the book began as the project “Dear Gillian” which received over 1,800 anonymous submissions from women about their deepest fantasies. In her introduction, Anderson says she…
Category: Bondage & BDSM
Is “Impact Play” a Misnomer?
Within the BDSM community, one of the most widely practised kinks is impact play – striking the body of a consenting partner for sexual pleasure. So widely practised and depicted as such in the media, that for many outside of the community, “impact play” seems synonymous with BDSM. Typically, BDSM is misinterpreted as spanking and…
Temperature Play: From Hot and Sticky to Cool and Slippery
Ever fancied the idea of using an ice-cold dildo but don’t want it sticking to your vag? Like the thought of hot wax but not third-degree burns? For top tips on making temperature play go down a treat, I’ve got you covered. Temperature play is a form of (consensual) sensation play whereby people explore and…
Can Submission and Feminism Align?
In various sexual relationships over the years, I’ve explored my submissive side, yet I call myself a feminist. But can you be a feminist as a submissive? Does submission conflict with feminist ideals? Yes you can and no, it doesn’t have to. How does submission encompass feminism? Finding yourself wanting to play with the power…
Topping from the Bottom
You might have heard the phrase “topping from the bottom” (thanks, Fifty Shades of Grey…) and wondered what it means. Maybe you’re confused about how “topping” differs from “domming” and whether you can bottom from the top, dom from the bottom or top as a Dom – and then your knickers are really in a…
How to Explore BDSM and Kinky Sex when Pregnant
Type “kink in pregnancy” into a search engine and you’ll mainly find medical articles about a physical kink in the ureter during pregnancy or results (that are mainly porn) about pregnancy fetishes. There are only a handful of articles covering how to explore kinky sex, like BDSM, when pregnant. At first, I was surprised –…
Seduced by Rope
As we enter Covent Garden’s Coco de Mer after closing time, it’s clear this is going to be a very sexy evening. Before the class begins, we’re offered a glass of prosecco and the chance to browse the lace, silk, leather and silicone in the room. Towards the rear wall, we spot a group of…
What is a “CNC” Kink?
Standing for “consensual non-consent”, the acronym CNC refers to an extreme form of a Total Power Exchange (TPE) dynamic in BDSM play. It’s where two or more people agree that when the submissive(s) says “no”, they actually mean “yes”. Decipher your CNC-ers from the ENMs – learn what those acronyms on dating apps mean. CNC…
What Should I Have in my Bondage Kit?
So you’re looking to create your very own BDSM Box. Good on you! Bondage kits from sex toy shops are often (coincidentally?) priced at £69.99 and there always seems to be something missing or something you don’t quite know how to use. Here’s a handy guide on what you need in a BDSM kit, whether…
A Night at Torture Garden
A taste of what you can expect from a night at London’s fetish club, Torture Garden. We hear the techno reverberating off the walls as we swagger inside. Ascending the stairs in our red lips and statement coats concealing latex lingerie, our excitement permeates the surroundings as much as the music. Do we have cash…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 