It wasn’t until the last few years of my twenties that I realised that rough sex is more common than I originally thought. Yes, hair-pulling is a common sexual preference and Pornhub is awash with all manner of synonyms for “BDSM”, but when you know where to look, you’ll find a crowd you had previously…
Category: Single Life
Oceans
Your voice envelopes me across oceans. Letters on the page transcribe a deeper intimacy and the confidence with which you speak rouses me down the telephone line. And I feel like I’ve known you for years. Photo by Sithamshu Manoj on Unsplash
Lockdown Life
Eight weeks into a global lockdown there seems to be a shift in people’s mentalities: The first six weeks were characterised by silent roads during Monday morning’s rush hour, empty town centres on Saturday afternoons and quizzes on Friday nights. Now, the traffic on our roads is almost returning to normal, town centres are a…
Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times
Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a pandemic. Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online. But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others. Can we form romantic connections online with people…
Dating During Covid
We’re all inside. We’re all watching far too much TV and I’m sure some of us are eating far too many biscuits. And it’s becoming very evident that a lot of people are on dating apps, certainly more than usual. In fact, this week a friend shared an article with me that said, “On the…
“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog
*Guest blog* In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners. Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts. Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I didn’t want…
Intimacy During Covid
Sometimes a blog post comes easily. Other times, it’s a slog. And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for years and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go. Here is…
A Toolkit for Self-Care
Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time to time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better. I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy cakes will cure your depression, but if…
Our Own Little Narratives – Guest Blog
*Guest blog* A friend and I have been talking about collaborating on a few posts and sharing a man’s perspective on dating in our twenties (something this blog often lacks). I love the way he candidly writes about his experiences and I hope you enjoy reading about them as much as I did. Picture the…
15 Guys You Will Have Dated by the Time You’re 30
If you’re single for a sustained amount of time during your twenties, by the time you get to 30, you realise you have dated (or slept) with people you never thought you’d date. Here are some of them: By the time you’re 30 or have been actively dating for a substantial amount of time, you’ll…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 