Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time-to-time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better.
I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy-cakes will cure your depression, but if these things make you happy, they will certainly make a difference.
I’ve been in and out of relationships since I was 14. At 28, that’s half my life. And over the last 14 years, I’ve learnt that taking time for myself is essential for my well-being and I’m a better partner, friend, daughter and sister as a result.
Whilst this isn’t a definitive guide, and it certainly won’t suit everyone, it might inspire you to think about what makes you feel whole and happy.
- A cup of tea
Painfully British, but a cup of tea is such a simple way to warm your insides. Tumeric tea will energise you and builders’ tea with almond or oat milk is so comforting.
- Fresh air and a walk
For me, a work-out or a yoga session doesn’t do it (I just feel relieved the exercising is over), but being outside in the fresh air and going for a walk does wonderful things to my mental health – particularly if I’m working things out in my mind.
- Speaking with someone
Talking through what’s worrying me with someone I know will listen and provide good advice is invaluable. Often, this is my mum or my sister with personal problems, or my dad with practical problems in my career.
A bath, candles, shaving your legs just for yourself, a face mask, painting your fingers and toes and lathering your body with essential oils is heavenly.
Some people like to write in a journal, I enjoy blogging. If writing is your thing, find a way to get your stresses down; sometimes the act of writing helps you to organise your worries, get some perspective and find a solution.
- Organising / De-cluttering
Cleaning the house or clearing out a cupboard can help to form a clear mind.
What’s in your toolkit for self-care?