Taking Your First Steps into BDSM

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve managed to broach the topic of BDSM with your partner, well done.  Hopefully, they agreed…

How to Broach BDSM with your Partner

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve found your way to Torture Garden’s website, so the chances are you’re interested in the…

The Art of a D/s Relationship

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. Anyone can boss someone around, dishing out rewards and punishments but engaging in a D/s (Dominant/submissive)…

The Smear Diaries – First Time Advice

With 1 in 3 women in the UK not taking up the invite for their cervical screening check, I’m striving to help women make informed decisions about their health. I’ve set out to share a variety of experiences of the cervical screening process – from invitation to after-party. Thank you to the women who’ve told…

Little Silver Linings in a Big Cloud of Shit

Walks, fresh air & sunshine Call with co-workers to stay in the loop Keeping a schedule Computer games Exercising & Yoga Family time Sleeping Productivity Writing Video calls with friends Reading   What are your silver linings made of?   Photo by Brett Sayles from Pexels

A Toolkit for Self-Care

Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time-to-time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better. I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy-cakes will cure your depression, but if these things make…

Things to consider before a career change

So the job you’re doing isn’t ‘sparking joy’.  You’ve reached the maximum happiness output you feel you’ll achieve and the job isn’t all you hoped it would be.  Maybe you’re worried you’ll be wasting your (£9,000 if you’re lucky, but more likely £27,000) BSc, your PGCE or your Masters (and an additional £9,000).  Maybe you’re…

A Thank You Letter

Dear A, I want to thank you for being receptive to the activity last week.  It’s been a tough few months and we haven’t been as happy as we used to be.  The constant bickering is driving us mad and our relationship isn’t always something for others to covet. Please be proud of yourself for…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

How to be a girl (according to magazines)

I’ve given up reading magazines.  So many of them are full of instructions of what we should eat, how we should do our makeup and how we should flirt with boys. I’ve compiled a list of the shite I’ve read in magazines and what’s gone through my head immediately after:   ‘How to be beach-ready’…