Love and Lust in Lockdown: Self-improvement.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   George, 30. What is your relationship status? Single.   Describe your love-life in one word. Wondering.   Who have you been quarantining…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Day by day.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   D (F), 33. What is your relationship status? Undefined.   Describe your love-life in one word. Jumbled.   Who have you been…

Adapting

Eight weeks into a global lockdown there seems to be a shift in people’s mentalities: The first six weeks were characterised by silent roads during Monday morning’s ‘rush hour’, empty town centres on Saturday afternoons and quizzes on Friday nights.  Now, the traffic on our roads is almost returning to normal, town centres are a…

Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times

Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a global pandemic.  Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online.  But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others.  Can we form romantic connections online with…

A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

Moving Forward; A’s Letter – Guest Blog

With time and after a few tearful phone calls, A and I have reached a stage of calmness, acceptance and positivity.  Here’s his recent letter to me (you can read his first one, here).  As with the previous letter; A has said I can post it on the blog.   Dear H, First of all,…

This is how a breakup feels

I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 2)

(Read Stage 1 here) Prior to a video consultation with the fertility doctor, there was a barrage of forms to fill in and a video to watch and understand. Some of the forms included: consent for the clinic to use my personal information an extensive medical questionnaire a ‘welfare of the child’ quiz : will…

Little Silver Linings in a Big Cloud of Shit

Walks, fresh air & sunshine Call with co-workers to stay in the loop Keeping a schedule Computer games Exercising & Yoga Family time Sleeping Productivity Writing Video calls with friends Reading   What are your silver linings made of?   Photo by Brett Sayles from Pexels

8 Pillars of Joy in the Time of the Coronavirus

Last summer, I read a book called ‘The Book of Joy‘ by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu, edited by Douglas Abrams.  In it, these two spiritual and religious men identified 8 Pillars of Joy; 4 for the mind and 4 for the heart.  During this time of global depression, anxiety and uncertainty, I’m trying…