“Our Own Little Narratives” – Guest Blog

*Guest blog* – A friend and I have been talking about collaborating on a few posts and sharing a male’s perspective on dating in our twenties (something this blog often lacks).  He said he’d send over some thoughts – any my, how he delivered!  I love the authenticity of his experiences and I thank him…

Successes and Failures – Part 3 of 3

You can find Part 1 here and Part 2 here. My darling best friend spent a long time considering his successes and failures and sent me a very long message.  Wishing to do it justice, I’ve decided to write it out as he shared it with me so it maintains his voice and the eloquence…

The Music of Love

Music can evoke different emotions; it can make us feel connected with people.  It can bring back memories. Can we map a piece of music or a genre of music onto our relationships?   A while ago, I wrote about the colours of our relationships.  Now, I’m wondering about the music of our lovers.   Over Christmas…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…

Successes and Failures – Part 2 of 3

In Part 1 I wrote about personal and global achievements and disasters. Whilst writing, I messaged friends and they kindly shared with me some of their own successes and failures.  Hopefully, by grouping them into themes, I haven’t reduced their poignancy. [Since writing Part 2, other friends have messaged with their own experiences, so I’ve…

Successes and Failures – Part 1 of 3

As the year draws to an end, we often reflect on our accomplishments and failures of the past 12 months.  We might be particularly proud of a promotion, or an engagement or reaching out to a forgotten friend.  Or maybe we missed opportunities and look back at the year with a hint of regret, but…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

Two cups, not one.

If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…

16 Ways to Make Your Hospital Stay a Little More Manageable

Over 28 years, I’ve had more than my fair share of hospital visits, both as an outpatient and an inpatient and admitted to NHS hospitals and private hospitals.  With each operation, I’ve worked out a few tricks to help hospital feel less like a clinical institution and more like a homestay. I hope you find…

The nephrostomy fitting.

Image from Nursing Times. Lying on my stomach with my hands above my head, I wasn’t worried.  (Nine people in the room seemed more than necessary for a conscious kidney procedure, but I was introduced to all the focused, smiling faces.)  The consultant said there’d be no pain, only when the local anaesthetic was injected…