When you’re first dipping your toes into BDSM, it can be difficult to know where to begin. Do you need all the bondage gear? Must you spend a fortune on latex? And do you have to buy stripper heels? After you’ve spoken with your partner about exploring BDSM together, then comes the fun bit: choosing…
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What Do Women Want in Bed?
What do women fantasise about? Gillian Anderson’s hotly anticipated new book “Want” is a collection of 174 sexual fantasies of women from around the world. Published in September 2024, the book began as the project “Dear Gillian” which received over 1,800 anonymous submissions from women about their deepest fantasies. In her introduction, Anderson says she…
Is “Impact Play” a Misnomer?
Within the BDSM community, one of the most widely practised kinks is impact play – striking the body of a consenting partner for sexual pleasure. So widely practised and depicted as such in the media, that for many outside of the community, “impact play” seems synonymous with BDSM. Typically, BDSM is misinterpreted as spanking and…
The Art of Orgasm Edging
Have you heard the term “edging” and wondered what it means? Are you here to find out how to do it or learn new ways to incorporate edging into your sexual repertoire? Seasoned edgers and edging novices: read on. So what does “edging” actually mean? Edging is when a person brings themself (or is brought…
Share Your Story
Feature on the blog by sharing your story! Have a sexy story to share but are unsure where to share it? Want to tell a sexy tale but can’t find the words? Have a unique perspective on something saucy and want to yell it from the rooftops? I’d love to hear from you! Get in…
“Choose Your Own Adventure” – A Sexy Script
A sexy script I’ve never published. Choose Your Own Adventure INT. EARLY EVENING, A LIVELY RESTAURANT We can hear other people chatting in the restaurant and music in the background. The waiter approaches the table where Max and Rosie are sitting. WAITER The Portuguese white? ROSIE (simultaneously) Lovely, thank you! MAX (simultaneously) Awesome, thanks. We…
The Primal Rockstar – An Erotic Story
I originally wrote this for Aurore – “porn with a plotline”, published in August 2022 under the alternative title, “Starfucking”. There’s nothing like being at a live show – dancing in a sea of people, being pushed around as you all sing and shout lyrics in unison, albeit mainly off-key. You feel the drumbeat move…
Can Submission and Feminism Align?
In various sexual relationships over the years, I’ve explored my submissive side, yet I call myself a feminist. But can you be a feminist as a submissive? Does submission conflict with feminist ideals? Yes you can and no, it doesn’t have to. How does submission encompass feminism? Finding yourself wanting to play with the power…
Topping from the Bottom
You might have heard the phrase “topping from the bottom” (thanks, Fifty Shades of Grey…) and wondered what it means. Maybe you’re confused about how “topping” differs from “domming” and whether you can bottom from the top, dom from the bottom or top as a Dom – and then your knickers are really in a…
How to Explore BDSM and Kinky Sex when Pregnant
Type “kink in pregnancy” into a search engine and you’ll mainly find medical articles about a physical kink in the ureter during pregnancy or results (that are mainly porn) about pregnancy fetishes. There are only a handful of articles covering how to explore kinky sex, like BDSM, when pregnant. At first, I was surprised –…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 