Date Week

1 – First online blind date in a while. I feel excited for this one (he’s attractive in his photos and he seems fun). He doesn’t really look like his photos and he doesn’t seem like he’d be much fun. I don’t think he fancies me; he doesn’t look me in the eyes very often….

The hook-up culture that is 2017…

Single Millennials have dug themselves a grave. We’ve created a hook-up culture where, if we’re not willing to participate in an NSA (No-strings-attached) relationship, someone else will.  We can have free sex whenever we want it.  Women have fought, and continue to fight, for the right to be as sexually liberated as men and not…

Did it work?

I felt reluctant to go on last night’s date.  I matched with him on Bumble and we exchanged numbers after a day or so.  He seemed keener than I was, probably because my trust in people’s profiles had been depleted since my previous date.  We were texting for a week before we met!  This is…

What we’re looking for.

  Trying to work out what I want from a relationship has been tricky, and through making mistakes in dating people, I’ve mainly discovered what I don’t want.  But on Saturday night I figured it out with a friend.  What I want is balance. I want someone who balances with me: They have similar life aspirations They are at…

Please don’t spoil this.

You’re not conventionally attractive.  You’re not my usual type.  But you were keen to meet and drove a distance to meet me. For the most part, you were very charming – and flirty.  The conversation was easy and I instinctively felt comfortable with and trusted you.  I couldn’t work out if I fancied you.  I…

2 very different stories…

Version 1: You match with a guy from Bumble.  You’re chatting for a few days.  You’re unsure on whether to go on the date. Date: he’s a nice guy, but you don’t feel a spark.  He tries to ask questions about you, but he mainly talks about himself.  He has limited ‘chat’ and no giggles….

Let’s not beat around the bush.

In dating and relationships, I’m a real advocate of ‘honesty is the best policy’.  It’s not fun hearing someone isn’t into you, but at least you know.  It’s not fun admitting a relationship has run its course, but at least you aren’t clinging onto false hope.  It’s not fun accepting the possibility that you might…

Just look at me.

For this post, let’s park social anxiety disorders to the side. Stop avoiding eye contact.  Look me in the eye when you talk to me.  Show me you care.  Stop thinking about something else.  Stop thinking about someone else.  Stop thinking about you.  Look at me.  Show me that you fancy me.  Show me the…

A letter to my ex.

Dear You, The summer was confusing.  I missed you and you confessed you still loved me. We nearly met up to see if we could rekindle things.  We didn’t meet – thank God.  Being friends wasn’t going to happen, was it?  At least not yet.  Any anyway, I was seeing someone (admittedly I wasn’t as invested…

Is that really appropriate…?

Watching First Dates and reflecting on my own checkered dating past has highlighted an array of guidelines on what to do (and what to avoid) on a first date. Conversation.  Don’t talk about politics, death, marriage and babies, exes or money.  End of. Alcohol.  Don’t get really drunk on a first date.  This is from personal experience….