Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times

Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a global pandemic.  Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online.  But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others.  Can we form romantic connections online with…

Little Silver Linings in a Big Cloud of Shit

Walks, fresh air & sunshine Call with co-workers to stay in the loop Keeping a schedule Computer games Exercising & Yoga Family time Sleeping Productivity Writing Video calls with friends Reading   What are your silver linings made of?   Photo by Brett Sayles from Pexels

A Thank You Letter

Dear A, I want to thank you for being receptive to the activity last week.  It’s been a tough few months and we haven’t been as happy as we used to be.  The constant bickering is driving us mad and our relationship isn’t always something for others to covet. Please be proud of yourself for…

The Silent Couple

The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around.   Their phones turned down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons.   A quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on.   When the food comes…

Bookish Thoughts

Photo by Gaelle Marcel on Unsplash My social media feeds are awash with Reading Challenges. And although I’m a lover of a list and ticking off jobs from the ‘to-do’ list, I’m choosing not to set myself a target of how many books to read this year.  I worry that it would take the joy out of reading…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…

Successes and Failures – Part 1 of 3

As the year draws to an end, we often reflect on our accomplishments and failures of the past 12 months.  We might be particularly proud of a promotion, or an engagement or reaching out to a forgotten friend.  Or maybe we missed opportunities and look back at the year with a hint of regret, but…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

Are we all players?

Here are some snippets of conversations I’ve heard 20-something men have when I’ve been out and about in London and Brighton.  Food for thought…? Guys claim women are more likely to be players now.  Guys hate that ‘women hold the power’.  They reckon some girls only want a guy if she can see he has…

I’m a nice girl, not a bitch.

In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.  This time last year, he told me he had got his shit together.  He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.  We all know this only lasted 2 weeks.  But scrolling through his Facebook page stalking him…