In various sexual relationships over the years, I’ve explored my submissive side, yet I call myself a feminist. But can you be a feminist as a submissive? Does submission conflict with feminist ideals? Yes you can and no, it doesn’t have to. How does submission encompass feminism? Finding yourself wanting to play with the power…
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When Will Sex Be Good Again?
Warning: spoilers and content some readers may find triggering. “In recent years, two requirements have emerged for good sex; consent and self-knowledge,” writes Katherine Angel in her recent book, Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again*. When it comes to self-knowledge (we’ll get to consent shortly), it’s not always easy to know what turns us on…
Sexual Wellness: The Market That’s Approaching Second Base
An edited version of this article was originally published for Nulune; a strategic advisory company striving for a better tomorrow. Founded by Alice Bodkin, Nulune’s mission is to engage brands in conversations around sustainability and well-being and to inspire new ideas and disruption for the future. Knowing my love for sexual wellness, Alice asked me to write…
Why I Write About Sex
When I started this blog at the age of 21 (I am now 28), I wanted to write about my experiences of sex, dating and relationships because what I wanted to find out and talk about regarding sex wasn’t available in the magazines I was reading, the porn I was watching or the websites I…
Why Are We Faking It?
The pay gap’s sister, the orgasm gap, has recently had me thinking. Sexually confident and liberated women all over the world are faking orgasms. Some may be faking it because they don’t know if they’ve climaxed, others fake it so sex ends sooner and others do it because they want to placate the person they’re…
Kickass Women 2.0 – A Ray of Hope
For many of us right now, the future is uncertain. Markets are crashing, businesses are closing and there is a great deal of (understandable) negativity. And whilst I don’t wish to underestimate the gravitas of the global situation, over the weekend I found a little ray of hope in my corner of the world. In…
Books Every Single Girl Should Read
What better way to deal with feeling fed-up, lonely and pissed off than getting lost in a book?! 1) For when you’re feeling lost: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho This beautiful short book is a perfect read for when you feel you’ve lost your way. The narrative follows a shepherd through the desert as he…
I’m a Feminist But…
My favourite podcast at the moment is The Guilty Feminist. Alongside Deborah Frances-White, panellists explore a host of topics in insightful ways whilst also being absolutely hilarious. At the beginning of each episode, the hosts disclose three un-feminist habits they have discovered about themselves. Here are some of my own and ones that friends have…
12 Reasons Why it’s Great to be a (Privileged) Woman (Living in a Developed Country) Right Now!
Happy International Women’s Day Everyone! Here’s a cheerful post for our special day. (No upset is intended towards the women who are still fighting for these rights; I can only speak from my experiences.) I worked hard at school, went to university, did a post-grad course and now (3 years later) think a career change…
Daily Contradictions of My Version of Feminism
Don’t assume I need help with hanging this picture but when I ask, be glad to help. If my computer crashes, show me how to fix it but stay with me in case I can’t do it. Don’t expect me to make dinner and do the dishes, but if I do, be thankful and smother…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 