A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

It takes a village to raise a child

This year, I’ve written quite prolifically about my fertility and health problems.  But as 2019 draws to a close, I’m thinking about the future – particularly as I’m careering towards 30 at (what seems like) an alarming rate. Specifically, I’m thinking about family plans.  Whilst so many things are going well (family, friends, career and…

Successes and Failures – Part 2 of 3

In Part 1 I wrote about personal and global achievements and disasters. Whilst writing, I messaged friends and they kindly shared with me some of their own successes and failures.  Hopefully, by grouping them into themes, I haven’t reduced their poignancy. [Since writing Part 2, other friends have messaged with their own experiences, so I’ve…

Successes and Failures – Part 1 of 3

As the year draws to an end, we often reflect on our accomplishments and failures of the past 12 months.  We might be particularly proud of a promotion, or an engagement or reaching out to a forgotten friend.  Or maybe we missed opportunities and look back at the year with a hint of regret, but…

The nephrostomy fitting.

Image from Nursing Times. Lying on my stomach with my hands above my head, I wasn’t worried.  (Nine people in the room seemed more than necessary for a conscious kidney procedure, but I was introduced to all the focused, smiling faces.)  The consultant said there’d be no pain, only when the local anaesthetic was injected…

Love Stories…

Dolly Alderton is my idol – as all of my frequent readers will know. Her podcast, ‘Love Stories’ fuels my commute, ignites conversations between myself and friends and inspires me to consider my own love stories. And so… (with a few additions) A story of first love. Of course, I could tell you about my…

Memories

Memories The way you touch your chest when you’re passionate about the words you speak. The way you screw your face up when you giggle. The pitch of your voice when we get excited together. The curve of your stomach That leads to the lace of your lingerie and the shape of your pubic hair….

How to Survive…School Reunions

School reunions – survival 101 Be charming to everyone, even the person who said bitchy things about you behind your back ten years ago.   Don’t drink too much.  The school days are over and you don’t want to make a tit of yourself when you ought to be older and wiser. Don’t lie – if…

8 ways to be a little ray of sunshine.

Be confident in who you are and what you want from life.  At the age of 25, I’m pretty sure of myself.  I’ve had lots of good times and lots of bad times, each one shaping me into the woman I am today.  When I look in the mirror, I like what I see.  Yes,…

Your expectations

Maybe I gave you the impression I was interested in you.  Maybe I led you on? But I don’t think I did. I’m not sure why you thought I’d come back to you. You came round with a mate in the evening (let’s do the ‘friends thing‘), but you came empty-handed and drank me out…