Before you say it, I know I’m not in a long-distance relationship, but I’ve had a couple. My first boyfriend and I were together for 7 years from 14 to 21 years old, and the last few years of that relationship were split across the south of England and Southeast Asia. A more recent relationship…
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The Shadow of the Ex-Girlfriend
Many of us are curious about the partners who came before, particularly when dating someone new. In the early days of a relationship, you might find yourself wishing you could ask about the ex-girlfriend but feeling nervous about what your partner will say. Perhaps you’ve picked up the occasional snippet of her personality from conversations…
A Hopeful Letter – My Response to My Ex
Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter. A mix of emotions rose up: eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon. It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it? Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…
A’s Love Letter – Guest Blog
*Guest Blog* Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared this blog with him. It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about. True to his word, he’s said he…
Pop
You don’t like it when I mention the breakup; My words pop the bubble you’ve formed around yourself – like a comfort blanket. No one’s broken up during a global pandemic before; there are no hard-and-fast rules (not that we were subscribing to rules, but some guidance might be nice). We’ve been apart for four…
The Silent Couple
The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around. Their phones faced down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons. With a quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on. When the food comes shoulders relax…
5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument
So you live with your boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re working out how to…
How to Make a New Relationship Blossom
So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the arduous game of deciphering whether they’re interested is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bear them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….
You Find Love When You Least Expect It
Everyone always says, “You’ll find someone when you least expect it.” I’ve always disliked this saying; I least expect to find a boyfriend when I’m in Sainsbury’s, with unwashed hair and probably a hormone spot just starting on my jawline. Or when I’m hurriedly filling up with petrol in the pouring rain in Converse trainers….
Your Future Girlfriend will Thank Me
I taught you how to dress in the style you aspire to emulate. I taught you which neck cut looks good with the way you do your hair and which sleeve styles suit complement your arms. I demonstrated how some colours suit your skin and hair colour, and how some don’t. In the minefield you…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 