Life’s complicated, which makes sex complicated — even, or especially, with someone you’ve been in a relationship with for a while. We don’t always want sex every day, or in the same way each time we do have sex, so why should we presume our partner wants the same kind of sex each time? At…
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4 Ways to Make Time for Sex
When you’re living with a partner, sex can suffer. There’s no longer the eager anticipation of weekend visits to each other’s homes with ample time to scrub, shave and moisturise in the preceding days. Instead, you’re sharing a bathroom… Then, add life stressors, children and comfort to the mix. See how easily sex slides down…
Holiday Sex
You’re heading on holiday with your partner. Your destination is adults-only, has a private hot tub, and has a floor-to-ceiling window with an impressive view. You’re going to have so much sex. What do you pack? Condoms, lube, sexy lingerie, obviously. How about that new sex toy you’ve both been meaning to try? Or that…
Think Your Sex Drive Won’t Change After Having a Baby? Think Again
I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re reading this and thinking: “Duh, of course, a woman’s sex drive changes after having a baby!” When I was pregnant, I thought the same. However, I didn’t realise to what extent my sex drive would change. When I found out I was pregnant, I had been with my boyfriend…
5 Top Apps for Sexual Wellness
Is your sex drive too low or too high? Are you having enough sex? Can you have too much sex? The internet is awash with ways to tell us we’re not having enough sex and that we need to have more, more, more! But is the advice we read online or in magazines really all…
Why Are We Faking It?
The pay gap’s sister, the orgasm gap, has recently had me thinking. Sexually confident and liberated women all over the world are faking orgasms. Some may be faking it because they don’t know if they’ve climaxed, others fake it so sex ends sooner and others do it because they want to placate the person they’re…
Lockdown Frustrations
Lockdown is still in place. The horny single people are still horny and single. Some of us have caved and messaged or slept with an ex. Some of us have snogged and shagged our friends; lines have blurred.
Oceans
Your voice envelopes me across oceans. Letters on the page transcribe a deeper intimacy and the confidence with which you speak rouses me down the telephone line. And I feel like I’ve known you for years. Photo by Sithamshu Manoj on Unsplash
Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times
Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a pandemic. Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online. But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others. Can we form romantic connections online with people…
Intimacy During Covid
Sometimes a blog post comes easily. Other times, it’s a slog. And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for years and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go. Here is…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 