Wet dreams are often thought of as a nuisance for teenage boys so you can imagine my surprise when, one day last week, I woke up at 5 AM feeling like I’d had an orgasm. Had I actually dreamt I had an orgasm? No, I really did climax – hands-free. I’d forgotten that this had happened before, albeit only a handful of times. So what’s a wet dream, can women have them and why do people orgasm in their sleep? And more to the point: how can you make yourself have a sleep orgasm?
What is a wet dream and can women have them?
A wet dream is when someone orgasms or ejaculates in their sleep. They’re the same thing as sleep orgasms and can sometimes be called “nocturnal emissions”, though that’s a pretty clinical term that sounds a bit icky.
Wet dreams can happen in men and women and during adolescence and adulthood. It’s much more common in men and during puberty.
Why do people have wet dreams?
Wet dreams can occur when hormone levels are changing – during puberty, pregnancy, postpartum, and maybe even menopause. I had a baby 14 months ago and I realise my hormones are still stabilising. But there are other reasons why people have wet dreams:
- Watching porn before bed or reading sexy fantasies (“Want”, Gillian Anderson’s recently-published collection of women’s fantasies, makes for excellent bedtime reading)
- Abstaining from sex or masturbation for a while
- Dreaming about sex, though sex dreams don’t necessarily result in nocturnal orgasms, nor do they preclude every sleep orgasm
Can I make myself have a wet dream?
Basically, no. There’s not a lot of research into wet dreams and only a fraction of the research studies women. Some people say not having sex or masturbating for a while might make it more likely you’ll dream about sex, but so does reading erotica, listening to audio porn, watching porn and thinking about sex constantly, so the jury’s out.
Not all women will experience sleep orgasms so if you haven’t had one yet, don’t stress. Stress is the last thing your body needs when drifting off to sleep and will reduce the likelihood you’ll dream sexy dreams.
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On occasion, I have woken up and wondered if I had an orgasm while I’ve slept, as my condition “down there” certainly indicated that I had. Sure wish I could remember the experience 🙂 XOXO
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How easily can you tell the difference between having been sexually aroused by a dream and having cum in your sleep? I could imagine that, as a woman, you’d know if you’d orgasmed just prior to waking, but if you just wake with a wet pussy, I would expect that to be inconclusive.
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Well exactly. It’s the feeling of an orgasm – racing heart, fluttering breath, whole-body sensations – that was pretty conclusive for me. It’s a bit more obvious for guys to know when they’ve had a wet dream which is one reason why there’s less research on women having orgasms in their sleep.
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I know they’re more widely discussed in the school playgroynd, but outside the Kinsey Institute, has there really been that much “research” into male wet dreams?
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