This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’re hovering over the “Book Now” button thinking, “Should I? Shouldn’t I?” Yes, you should. Then…
Category: Single Life
Taking Your First Steps into BDSM
A former version of this post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve managed to broach the topic of BDSM with your partner, well…
A Sestina for “Matthew”*
I never met a man who was quite so confident in himself. The way he took charge of me shrouded his deep insecurity. Yet lying in the hotel bed, I lay with a man full of hurt, who believed life had not been kind to him and it had made him hard. Reader, he divulged…
Casual to Serious: Can it Ever Work?
Trigger Warning: This post relays scenes of rough, BDSM sex. Consensual but rough. Your mother will likely tell you that you can’t build a loving relationship from a casual hook-up. You’ll likely ignore her and be convinced this is possible in 2021 – after all, Becky and Andy started off shagging and look, they’re now…
When Will Sex Be Good Again?
Warning: spoilers and content some readers may find triggering. “In recent years, two requirements have emerged for good sex; consent and self-knowledge,” writes Katherine Angel in her recent book, Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again*. When it comes to self-knowledge (we’ll get to consent shortly), it’s not always easy to know what turns us on…
How to Explore BDSM Whilst in Quarantine
This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. It’s been a long year and during this pandemic, our sex lives have taken a battering. Singles are missing…
Love Lessons from a Pandemic
We’ve all gone through stages of having a list of what we need and want from a partner. We may have added to the list over the years or removed from it. Perhaps we scrunched up the paper and chucked it in the bin because someone came along who fit none of our requirements but…
The Dangers of “Neat and Tucked In”
Brighton, like the rest of the UK, is in the grip of a lockdown. To get through January, my housemates and I are keeping busy; we’ve enhanced our professional offerings, dressed up and conducted photoshoots for our new websites and found ourselves absorbed in great TV (because there is only so much time you can…
6 Top Tips for Success on Dating Apps
I’ve been on and off dating apps for most of my twenties; I’ve tried all the popular ones and sought casual and monogamous relationships with men and women; I’ve been around the block – see blog! Sometimes I’ve deleted my dating profile because I’ve met someone and wanted to see where it progresses but other…
To Pube or Not to Pube? It’s None of Your Business
Almost two years ago I wrote about my love affair with pubic hair and, amazingly, it’s the top post by which people stumble across this blog from Google. Aside from the catchy title and readers being enticed by a saucy topic, why else is it so popular? Is it because pubes are such a divisive…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 