Still Searching for Prince Charming

The Silent Couple

The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around. Their phones faced down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons. With a quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on. When the food comes shoulders relax…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with your boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re working out how to…

What to Talk About Before You Move in Together

Things you should talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes clean and tidy. It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy person…

Two Cups, Not One

If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…

Polycystic Ovaries and Fertility

On deciding to write about PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome), I discovered it’s Polycystic Awareness Month. As it comes to the end of the month, it’s a good opportunity to write about my experiences with PCOS. Until a few years ago, I didn’t know I had PCOS. At the age of 25, I had my first…

15 Guys You Will Have Dated by the Time You’re 30

If you’re single for a sustained amount of time during your twenties, by the time you get to 30, you realise you have dated (or slept) with people you never thought you’d date. Here are some of them: By the time you’re 30 or have been actively dating for a substantial amount of time, you’ll…

Porn

For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn. In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn. So, here goes: Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss. Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also because it can be so…

60 Years

In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages, two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear embodied…

How to Make a New Relationship Blossom

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the arduous game of deciphering whether they’re interested is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bear them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….

The First Time I Shouted at You

it had been nearly six months. You weren’t to know (and it wasn’t your fault) but I’d been in constant pain for weeks, and it was getting me down. On it, I blamed my limp libido and our absence of sex. In reality, it’s a culmination of your irritating habits and my irritability. Why do…