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You don’t like it when I mention the breakup; My words pop the bubble you’ve formed around yourself – like a comfort blanket. No one’s broken up during a global pandemic before; there are no hard-and-fast rules (not that we were subscribing to rules, but some guidance might be nice). We’ve been apart for four…

Entwined

So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk. Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress. Whilst you felt things were looking better,…

This is How a Breakup Feels

I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 2)

(Read Stage 1 here) Prior to a video consultation with the fertility doctor, there was a barrage of forms to fill in and a video to watch and understand. Some of the forms included: All these things to consider before even stepping foot in the clinic! After an incredibly informative hour-long appointment, I came away…

Dating During Covid

We’re all inside. We’re all watching far too much TV and I’m sure some of us are eating far too many biscuits. And it’s becoming very evident that a lot of people are on dating apps, certainly more than usual. In fact, this week a friend shared an article with me that said, “On the…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 1)

In some ways, the lockdown doesn’t stop life from going on. Yes, we’re working from home, yes, we’re cancelling dentist appointments and haircuts, but in many ways, we’re adapting not stopping. And some things won’t fix themselves. All the time I wait and don’t do anything about it, my ovaries are becoming more cystic which means…

“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog

*Guest blog* In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners. Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts. Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I didn’t want…

Intimacy During Covid

Sometimes a blog post comes easily. Other times, it’s a slog. And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for years and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go. Here is…

Kickass Women 2.0 – A Ray of Hope

For many of us right now, the future is uncertain. Markets are crashing, businesses are closing and there is a great deal of (understandable) negativity. And whilst I don’t wish to underestimate the gravitas of the global situation, over the weekend I found a little ray of hope in my corner of the world. In…

A Toolkit for Self-Care

Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time to time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better. I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy cakes will cure your depression, but if…