How Does It Feel To Live With An Ex?

Just before lockdown, I broke up with my ex.  It was a strange breakup because we lived together in my home with housemates, so it was always going to be tricky. We took it slow and cared for one another – then a pandemic hit.  Moving back home for lockdown with my family was both…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Growing roots.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Shorona, 31. What is your relationship status? Co-habiting.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 8 months and 5…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Time for one another.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Anon Female, 28. What is your relationship status? ​ Long term relationship.  (7 years).   Describe your love-life in one word. ​Real….

A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

A’s love letter – Guest Blog

Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared with him this blog.  It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about.  True to his word, he’s said he doesn’t mind…

Pop

You don’t like it when I mention the breakup; My words pop the bubble you’ve formed around yourself – like a comfort blanket.   No-one’s broken up during a global pandemic before; there are no hard-and-fast rules (not that we were subscribing to rules, but some guidance might be nice).   We’ve been apart for…

Entwined.

So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk.  Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress.  Whilst you felt things were looking better,…

Ordinary Joys

This month, WildWoman‘s book in the subscription box was ‘The Unexpected Joy of the Ordinary’ by Catherine Gray.  The book was unexpectedly enjoyable; a light-hearted and conversational read, backed-up by a lot of research into psychology and mental health.  With an ever-growing TBR pile, I was initially reluctant to pick up this book but it…

The Silent Couple

The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around.   Their phones turned down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons.   A quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on.   When the food comes…

The Music of Love

Music can evoke different emotions; it can make us feel connected with people.  It can bring back memories. Can we map a piece of music or a genre of music onto our relationships?   A while ago, I wrote about the colours of our relationships.  Now, I’m wondering about the music of our lovers.   Over Christmas…