The Silent Couple

The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around.   Their phones turned down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons.   A quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on.   When the food comes…

The Music of Love

Music can evoke different emotions; it can make us feel connected with people.  It can bring back memories. Can we map a piece of music or a genre of music onto our relationships?   A while ago, I wrote about the colours of our relationships.  Now, I’m wondering about the music of our lovers.   Over Christmas…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…

Two cups, not one.

If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…

10 things you should probably do to maintain a new relationship.

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the hard part of ‘will he, won’t he?’ is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bare them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….

What does your bookshelf say about you?

Do you have a bookcase? Are your books in piles on the floor? Do books feature in every room of the house? Are there any books for ‘loo reading’? Do your books sit on your bedside table? Are your books bleached by the sun? Do you have books of different genres? Are your books organised…

My Love Affair with Pubic Hair

I’ve been thinking about pubic hair a lot recently. Whilst I was single, I endeavoured to keep everything in my pants waxed or Immaced – you know, just in case. (Male friends have said they ‘keep on top of trimming’ when they’re single because they also never know when they’re going to get lucky and…

Broken Boys

Broken Boys You are not a counsellor to heal all the distorted childhoods. You are not a hospital to mend all the broken behaviours. If a boy is damaged, it is not your job to do what his mother did not.Put your heart and soul into loving him, But don’t expect to plaster up the…

When you least expect it.

Everyone always says, ‘you’ll find someone when you least expect it‘. I’ve always disliked this saying; I least expect to find a boyfriend when I’m in Sainsbury’s, with unwashed hair and probably a hormone spot just starting on my jawline. Or when I’m hurriedly filling up with petrol in the pouring rain in converse. Or,…

Radio Silence…

My lovely readers, I apologise for the radio silence. A while ago, I mentioned that I’m adapting my blogs into a book and for the past few months, I’ve been going over my old blog posts and editing them and trying to put the posts into a coherent format. However, that’s not the only reason…