A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

A’s love letter – Guest Blog

Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared with him this blog.  It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about.  True to his word, he’s said he doesn’t mind…

Pop

You don’t like it when I mention the breakup; My words pop the bubble you’ve formed around yourself – like a comfort blanket.   No-one’s broken up during a global pandemic before; there are no hard-and-fast rules (not that we were subscribing to rules, but some guidance might be nice).   We’ve been apart for…

Entwined.

So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk.  Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress.  Whilst you felt things were looking better,…

Ordinary Joys

This month, WildWoman‘s book in the subscription box was ‘The Unexpected Joy of the Ordinary’ by Catherine Gray.  The book was unexpectedly enjoyable; a light-hearted and conversational read, backed-up by a lot of research into psychology and mental health.  With an ever-growing TBR pile, I was initially reluctant to pick up this book but it…

The Silent Couple

The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around.   Their phones turned down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons.   A quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on.   When the food comes…

The Music of Love

Music can evoke different emotions; it can make us feel connected with people.  It can bring back memories. Can we map a piece of music or a genre of music onto our relationships?   A while ago, I wrote about the colours of our relationships.  Now, I’m wondering about the music of our lovers.   Over Christmas…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…

Two cups, not one.

If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…

10 things you should probably do to maintain a new relationship.

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the hard part of ‘will he, won’t he?’ is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bare them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….