How To Have Sex Without Family Hearing… A Festive Guide to Fucking

You’re heading home for Christmas. Your partner is in tow. You’re so excited about all the romantic, festive sex you’ll have. Then one of you remembers there’s a baby sister and a dog to avoid… So, how do you have sex without your family hearing? Here are my Top Tips for Festive Fucking: If you…

A Relationship by Numbers

At first, I began documenting our dates so we could look back on them over the coming year(s?!) and remember the start of our relationship. Perhaps this should have been evidence enough that we saw each other so infrequently, there had to be a log almost to prove it happened. And here we have it,…

Is He Having An Affair… With Me?

Has the wool been pulled over my eyes? Did I miss all the red flags because I wanted him to be something more than he was? Was I a total fool? Worse – was I the Other Woman? After almost six months, I’d never been to his house, I’d never met his friends, I’d never…

Attachment, Love Languages and Erotic Blueprints

We all know our upbringing and life experiences shape how we interact with the world – from how we deal with adversity to how we forge relationships (and everything in between) – so it’s no surprise psychologists are on a mission to understand this behaviour. In 1969, John Bowlby’s pioneering work constructed the theory of…

How Does It Feel To Live With An Ex?

Just before lockdown, I broke up with my ex.  It was a strange breakup because we lived together in my home with housemates, so it was always going to be tricky. We took it slow and cared for one another – then a pandemic hit.  Moving back home for lockdown with my family was both…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Growing roots.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Shorona, 31. What is your relationship status? Co-habiting.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 8 months and 5…

Love and Lust in Lockdown: Time for one another.

Lockdown has got many of us feeling hot under the collar and frisky between the sheets.  To find out how lockdown has impacted our love and lusting, I’m getting intimate with interviews.   Anon Female, 28. What is your relationship status? ​ Long term relationship.  (7 years).   Describe your love-life in one word. ​Real….

A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

A’s love letter – Guest Blog

Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared with him this blog.  It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about.  True to his word, he’s said he doesn’t mind…

Pop

You don’t like it when I mention the breakup; My words pop the bubble you’ve formed around yourself – like a comfort blanket.   No-one’s broken up during a global pandemic before; there are no hard-and-fast rules (not that we were subscribing to rules, but some guidance might be nice).   We’ve been apart for…