Everything I know about love and sex now I’m 26. Part 2/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.  See Part 1/2 here. Nice guys are hard to come by. If you spend the entirety of your teenage years in ONE long-term committed relationship by the time you turn 21, you won’t know how to talk to a boy you like, flirt,…

‘Tinder like a man’, he said.

Following from yet another failed attempt at dating, I decided I need to change my tac (doesn’t this sound familiar..?) ‘I’m giving up with dating apps!’ I exclaim to my friends on more than one occasion this summer.  ‘They’re full of guys who just want a quick shag.  I’ll never find a decent guy on…

How to be a girl (according to magazines)

I’ve given up reading magazines.  So many of them are full of instructions of what we should eat, how we should do our makeup and how we should flirt with boys. I’ve compiled a list of the shite I’ve read in magazines and what’s gone through my head immediately after:   ‘How to be beach-ready’…

Silver linings and straight lines.

Thursday happened and because it’s clear where he stands, I haven’t spent the last 48 hours ruminating and second-guessing what he’s thinking.  A clear line has been drawn under our almost-relationship.  And so, in my constant quest to not be a hypocrite, this post is the last I’ll say on the matter. My friend texted me…

Single and Mingle Night

I thought it couldn’t get worse than Speed Dating.  Turns out, it can! Last week, a friend invited me to a Single and Mingle night in Brighton.  She was going with her housemate and we all agreed it could be crap, but we wouldn’t know unless we went (and we’d never find a boyfriend sat…

Are we all players?

Here are some snippets of conversations I’ve heard 20-something men have when I’ve been out and about in London and Brighton.  Food for thought…? Guys claim women are more likely to be players now.  Guys hate that ‘women hold the power’.  They reckon some girls only want a guy if she can see he has…

“I hope it wasn’t too weird :)”

Last weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I had met IRL rather than through a dating app.  (The first date I’ve had of this sort since July when I met The Wrong Guy).  When we first met, he was fun, flirty, confident and attractive, so I asked if he wanted to…

Coupling up.

We’re not all coupling up, so don’t say that we are.  Some of us are working bloody hard to find the right kind of relationship, and I suppose that’s because some of us are more particular about what we’re looking for.  Or we set our sights further afield.  Or we’re aiming higher.  Or because we…

What we’re looking for.

  Trying to work out what I want from a relationship has been tricky, and through making mistakes in dating people, I’ve mainly discovered what I don’t want.  But on Saturday night I figured it out with a friend.  What I want is balance. I want someone who balances with me: They have similar life aspirations They are at…

To the 20-somethings who can’t get off their phones:

In a world where Millennials are glued to their phones, let’s have a reality check: Waiting by our phones isn’t achieving what we hoped it would. Having our phones to hand isn’t making our future love interest call. Checking Whatsapp isn’t going to prompt them to message. So let’s put our phones down.  Fortunately, we…