Consent can be Sexy – it can also be a Mood-Killer

What do you do when someone asks you for consent and it kills your vibe? Should you sort your attitude out and be pleased they checked in? Or is it reasonable to want consent to be acquired in a sexy manner? IMHO, consent can be considered part of foreplay; warming each other up, both getting…

How to Sext – Advice from an Erotic Scriptwriter

Much of the advice you’ll read about how to sext will be geared towards people in a relationship. In some ways a relationship is the perfect set-up for a sexy text: Two (or more) people who know each other intimately + Trust + Guarantee of seeing each other again = Hot texts that hit the…

I Tried the New Dating App, Thursday. Here’s What Happened.

Anyone who reads this blog regularly knows I’ve been on and off dating apps for the best part of 200 years. I’ve tried Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Feeld, Happ’n, Coffee Meets Bagel, Her, Plenty of Fish, Match.com, eHarmony – and now, Thursday. In the world of dating apps, Thursday is shaking things up. Rather than be…

Not Quite The Threesome I Was Expecting…

I hate January. And at the risk of being dramatic, I definitely hate it more the most people. Let me explain… The run-up to Christmas is great fun: there are Christmas drinks with friends fun dates with fellow singletons in a bid to have a Christmas shag when I’ve been in a relationship, we do…

Is Dating Advice Totally Useless?

“Keep your cards close to your chest.” “Be upfront early on.” Honestly, which is it? There’s a new trend in dating called “hardballing”. (Although let’s be frank, it’s not a new trend, it’s a phenomenon that’s recently been re-branded.) Hardballing suggests you be totally up front with a potential love interest before you go on…

Casual to Serious: Can it Ever Work?

Trigger Warning: This post relays scenes of rough, BDSM sex. Consensual but rough. Your mother will likely tell you that you can’t build a loving relationship from a casual hook-up. You’ll likely ignore her and be convinced this is possible in 2021 – after all, Becky and Andy started off shagging and look, they’re now…

Bibi does… Sex: With Miranda Kane

If you’ve ever listened to the Good Sex/Bad Sex podcast by Bibi Lynch and Miranda Kane, you’ll know to expect an evening of learning and laughter when these two get together. Quick-witted and not afraid to ask the question you’re thinking but wouldn’t dare ask, Bibi and Miranda know a thing or two about balancing…

Three Girls, One App.

When you have three vivacious single women looking for summer fun on the same dating apps whilst living at the same postcode, there’s bound to be some crossover with potential matches. And after one housemate unintentionally matched with another’s ex, we quickly learnt to keep each other in the loop with who’s chatting to whom….

How to Broach BDSM with your Partner

This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. You’ve found your way to Torture Garden’s website, so the chances are you’re interested in the…

Acronyms on Dating Sites: What Do They Mean?

So you’ve downloaded the app. You’re ready to line some dates up for this post-lockdown life. He looks nice and her profile seems genuine but what are all those letter combinations?! Over the years, I’ve been on plenty of dating sites. Some to find a partner, other times for casual experiences, and I’ve noticed there…