Single and Mingle Night

I thought it couldn’t get worse than Speed Dating.  Turns out, it can! Last week, a friend invited me to a Single and Mingle night in Brighton.  She was going with her housemate and we all agreed it could be crap, but we wouldn’t know unless we went (and we’d never find a boyfriend sat…

Are we all players?

Here are some snippets of conversations I’ve heard 20-something men have when I’ve been out and about in London and Brighton.  Food for thought…? Guys claim women are more likely to be players now.  Guys hate that ‘women hold the power’.  They reckon some girls only want a guy if she can see he has…

“I hope it wasn’t too weird :)”

Last weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I had met IRL rather than through a dating app.  (The first date I’ve had of this sort since July when I met The Wrong Guy).  When we first met, he was fun, flirty, confident and attractive, so I asked if he wanted to…

Coupling up.

We’re not all coupling up, so don’t say that we are.  Some of us are working bloody hard to find the right kind of relationship, and I suppose that’s because some of us are more particular about what we’re looking for.  Or we set our sights further afield.  Or we’re aiming higher.  Or because we…

What we’re looking for.

  Trying to work out what I want from a relationship has been tricky, and through making mistakes in dating people, I’ve mainly discovered what I don’t want.  But on Saturday night I figured it out with a friend.  What I want is balance. I want someone who balances with me: They have similar life aspirations They are at…

To the 20-somethings who can’t get off their phones:

In a world where Millennials are glued to their phones, let’s have a reality check: Waiting by our phones isn’t achieving what we hoped it would. Having our phones to hand isn’t making our future love interest call. Checking Whatsapp isn’t going to prompt them to message. So let’s put our phones down.  Fortunately, we…

5 ways to get guys to respond on Bumble.

I’ve tried nearly all the dating sites / apps out there and Bumble is definitely up there with the best ones.  I’ve successfully managed to talk to guys, convinced them that they wanted to go on a date with me, fallen into bed with them and then pined to my girlfriends about being ghosted. I’m…

2 very different stories…

Version 1: You match with a guy from Bumble.  You’re chatting for a few days.  You’re unsure on whether to go on the date. Date: he’s a nice guy, but you don’t feel a spark.  He tries to ask questions about you, but he mainly talks about himself.  He has limited ‘chat’ and no giggles….

Patterns

Some girls are adept at bagging the guy.  I’ve never found it particularly easy. There’s a guy I like.  And I think he likes me too…  (Doesn’t this sound familiar..?)   Experience thus far has taught me that guys in their 20’s do not have their shit together.  So when Mr R came along (at…

This is always the case; until it isn’t.

I’ve spent most of my dating life learning that “keenness isn’t cool.” DON’T BE KEEN!! they told me. Play it cool. I was told. So how is it that a friend is now dating a girl he once thought was overly keen?  She is older than my friend, she has baggage, she replies at 4am…