15 guys you will have dated by the time you’re 30.

I’m going to be that awful person. I’m just going to say it and hope my single friends don’t hate me for it (because I would have hated me last year): WHAT A RELIEF I’M NOT STILL SINGLE. Nine months in a happy relationship has meant I’ve often forgotten what a minefield it is being…

Porn

For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn.  In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn.  So, here goes: Photo by Charles 🇵🇭 on Unsplash Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss.  Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also…

60 years.

In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages – two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear…

September Feels

Oh, September in Britain.  The end of summer, that ‘back-to-school’ feeling, the disappointments of not achieving all those summer plans. But.  But also the productivity that comes with a new term.  Despite having not been a full-time teacher for the past year, and finding my feet as an Editor, I still find my working clock…

10 things you should probably do to maintain a new relationship.

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the hard part of ‘will he, won’t he?’ is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bare them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….

The first time I shouted at you

it had been nearly six months. You weren’t to know (and it wasn’t your fault) but I’d been in constant pain for weeks, and it was getting me down. On it, I blamed my limp libido and our absence of sex. In reality, it’s a culmination of your irritating habits and my irritability. Why do…

Love Stories…

Dolly Alderton is my idol – as all of my frequent readers will know. Her podcast, ‘Love Stories’ fuels my commute, ignites conversations between myself and friends and inspires me to consider my own love stories. And so… (with a few additions) A story of first love. Of course, I could tell you about my…

A cocoon

of auburn hair draped around me and you; hiding us from the world – and softening the needles we jab into each other. Sometimes it feels like a vaccine – or acupuncture; Are we harming each other? Or trying to fix the damage that’s been done? Or maybe we’re hoping to minimise future wounds…

What does your bookshelf say about you?

Do you have a bookcase? Are your books in piles on the floor? Do books feature in every room of the house? Are there any books for ‘loo reading’? Do your books sit on your bedside table? Are your books bleached by the sun? Do you have books of different genres? Are your books organised…

My Love Affair with Pubic Hair

I’ve been thinking about pubic hair a lot recently. Whilst I was single, I endeavoured to keep everything in my pants waxed or Immaced – you know, just in case. (Male friends have said they ‘keep on top of trimming’ when they’re single because they also never know when they’re going to get lucky and…