Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

The nephrostomy fitting.

Image from Nursing Times. Lying on my stomach with my hands above my head, I wasn’t worried.  (Nine people in the room seemed more than necessary for a conscious kidney procedure, but I was introduced to all the focused, smiling faces.)  The consultant said there’d be no pain, only when the local anaesthetic was injected…

15 guys you will have dated by the time you’re 30.

I’m going to be that awful person. I’m just going to say it and hope my single friends don’t hate me for it (because I would have hated me last year): WHAT A RELIEF I’M NOT STILL SINGLE. Nine months in a happy relationship has meant I’ve often forgotten what a minefield it is being…

Porn

For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn.  In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn.  So, here goes: Photo by Charles 🇵🇭 on Unsplash Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss.  Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also…

60 years.

In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages – two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear…

September Feels

Oh, September in Britain.  The end of summer, that ‘back-to-school’ feeling, the disappointments of not achieving all those summer plans. But.  But also the productivity that comes with a new term.  Despite having not been a full-time teacher for the past year, and finding my feet as an Editor, I still find my working clock…

10 things you should probably do to maintain a new relationship.

So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the hard part of ‘will he, won’t he?’ is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bare them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….

The first time I shouted at you

it had been nearly six months. You weren’t to know (and it wasn’t your fault) but I’d been in constant pain for weeks, and it was getting me down. On it, I blamed my limp libido and our absence of sex. In reality, it’s a culmination of your irritating habits and my irritability. Why do…

Love Stories…

Dolly Alderton is my idol – as all of my frequent readers will know. Her podcast, ‘Love Stories’ fuels my commute, ignites conversations between myself and friends and inspires me to consider my own love stories. And so… (with a few additions) A story of first love. Of course, I could tell you about my…

A cocoon

of auburn hair draped around me and you; hiding us from the world – and softening the needles we jab into each other. Sometimes it feels like a vaccine – or acupuncture; Are we harming each other? Or trying to fix the damage that’s been done? Or maybe we’re hoping to minimise future wounds…