A different kind of Valentine’s Day.

I’m a feminist but sometimes I worry I’m too independent. I’m surprised at how hard I’ve found it to be in a relationship again. Over the past two years, I have grown and changed and I was so eager to get into a relationship with the right kind of person I worry I’ve steamed ahead…

Broken Boys

Broken Boys You are not a counsellor to heal all the distorted childhoods. You are not a hospital to mend all the broken behaviours. If a boy is damaged, it is not your job to do what his mother did not.Put your heart and soul into loving him, But don’t expect to plaster up the…

When you least expect it.

Everyone always says, ‘you’ll find someone when you least expect it‘. I’ve always disliked this saying; I least expect to find a boyfriend when I’m in Sainsbury’s, with unwashed hair and probably a hormone spot just starting on my jawline. Or when I’m hurridly filling up with petrol in the pouring rain in converse. Or,…

Everything I know about love and sex now I’m 26. Part 2/2

Inspired by Dolly Alderton in her book, ‘Everything I know about love’.  See Part 1/2 here. Nice guys are hard to come by. If you spend the entirety of your teenage years in ONE long-term committed relationship by the time you turn 21, you won’t know how to talk to a boy you like, flirt,…

The Dating Game

Being a single female in 2018 is tough. I’ve been playing the game, with lots of different opponents, for a year and still haven’t won. It seems for every ‘move forward three spaces’, my next turn resulted in me moving back a space. When will this game end?!

Colours of our lives

Last week I went to India.  I am writing this at 3am on a Monday morning (UK time) because I can’t shift this jet lag, having only landed at 9pm Sunday night.   For me, one of the most striking aspects of the Indian culture is the colour: sarees, spices and holi abir add a…

History repeating itself.

There was instant attraction between the first guy and I. It happened once, then it happened again, and again and again. Love developed (at least on my side). Sadly, this man had someone else. Of course she was is a sexy Spaniard – he is was a marvelous Mancunian. An attraction based on friendship, fuelled by…

Runaway Bride

The penny has finally dropped.  It’s taken a year of hard learning, but I’ve got there. Things are usually so easy with The Bar Man; we both know how casual our relationship is and our evening started as it always has done.  As good friends do, we spent time catching up over a glass of…

Opposites.

What do I want? One was not this, that and the other enough. The other was too this, that and the other. But not enough of this other thing. He was perfect with this other thing. Has that thing affected my love map? Has that person affected my love map?  Undoubtedly.  He’s an alpha.  And that’s…

I’m a nice girl, not a bitch.

In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.  This time last year, he told me he had got his shit together.  He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.  We all know this only lasted 2 weeks.  But scrolling through his Facebook page stalking him…