My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…

A Thank You Letter

Dear A, I want to thank you for being receptive to the activity last week.  It’s been a tough few months and we haven’t been as happy as we used to be.  The constant bickering is driving us mad and our relationship isn’t always something for others to covet. Please be proud of yourself for…

The Silent Couple

The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around.   Their phones turned down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons.   A quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on.   When the food comes…

Successes and Failures – Part 3 of 3

You can find Part 1 here and Part 2 here. My darling best friend spent a long time considering his successes and failures and sent me a very long message.  Wishing to do it justice, I’ve decided to write it out as he shared it with me so it maintains his voice and the eloquence…

The Music of Love

Music can evoke different emotions; it can make us feel connected with people.  It can bring back memories. Can we map a piece of music or a genre of music onto our relationships?   A while ago, I wrote about the colours of our relationships.  Now, I’m wondering about the music of our lovers.   Over Christmas…

It takes a village to raise a child

This year, I’ve written quite prolifically about my fertility and health problems.  But as 2019 draws to a close, I’m thinking about the future – particularly as I’m careering towards 30 at (what seems like) an alarming rate. Specifically, I’m thinking about family plans.  Whilst so many things are going well (family, friends, career and…

Successes and Failures – Part 1 of 3

As the year draws to an end, we often reflect on our accomplishments and failures of the past 12 months.  We might be particularly proud of a promotion, or an engagement or reaching out to a forgotten friend.  Or maybe we missed opportunities and look back at the year with a hint of regret, but…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together…

Things you should probably talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes ‘clean’ and ‘tidy’.  It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy…

The nephrostomy fitting.

Image from Nursing Times. Lying on my stomach with my hands above my head, I wasn’t worried.  (Nine people in the room seemed more than necessary for a conscious kidney procedure, but I was introduced to all the focused, smiling faces.)  The consultant said there’d be no pain, only when the local anaesthetic was injected…

15 guys you will have dated by the time you’re 30.

I’m going to be that awful person. I’m just going to say it and hope my single friends don’t hate me for it (because I would have hated me last year): WHAT A RELIEF I’M NOT STILL SINGLE. Nine months in a happy relationship has meant I’ve often forgotten what a minefield it is being…