If I told you that some people get a kick out of being choked or choking someone during sex, would you raise your eyebrows or smirk? Maybe you’re into it, you’ve seen it in porn – or perhaps it’s been done to you when you didn’t ask for it. Choking is becoming increasingly common in…
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4 Ways to Make Time for Sex
When you’re living with a partner, sex can suffer. There’s no longer the eager anticipation of weekend visits to each other’s homes with ample time to scrub, shave and moisturise in the preceding days. Instead, you’re sharing a bathroom… Then, add life stressors, children and comfort to the mix. See how easily sex slides down…
“Do You Want This?” Did I Want My Babygirl Relationship?
If only Babygirl had been filmed and released during Covid, like Netflix’s erotic thriller, 365 Days. Maybe I would’ve taken the movie as a cautionary tale and avoided the naive BDSM relationship I had with Simon*. Or, more likely, I would have found the film terribly enticing and fallen into bed with the sexy Dom…
What to Say Instead of Ghosting Someone
You’ve just started dating someone but aren’t really feeling it anymore. Maybe you’ve got the ick, found someone more suited to you, or you’re no longer in the headspace to date. Ghosting makes light work of this: cutting communication without explanation is so much easier than sending a message and risking an awkward or difficult…
Things Said in Private
Prince Charming and I are watching the newest season of Married at First Sight Australia (MAFSA). We didn’t want to. We promised we’d skip lots. But now we almost look forward to it each evening. Fast-forward the recaps and teasers, whizz through the lovey-dovey couples and get to the good stuff. In this week’s Commitment…
The Rise and Fall of Dating Apps
It’s Friday afternoon and I’m messaging a guy I’ve been chatting with for a while. We haven’t met but he’s obsessed with me being a sex writer. Sometimes, our conversation feels like death by questions, but when other conversations are dragging, I can rely on having a message from this guy. As I’m typing my…
Holiday Sex
You’re heading on holiday with your partner. Your destination is adults-only, has a private hot tub, and has a floor-to-ceiling window with an impressive view. You’re going to have so much sex. What do you pack? Condoms, lube, sexy lingerie, obviously. How about that new sex toy you’ve both been meaning to try? Or that…
Even More Sex Toys for Couples, And How to Use Them
Jingling into week three, the Lovehoney Advent Calendar delivered sensual toys for solo and partnered play – with a few spicier items thrown in. Body massager Day 15’s box contained a body massager with an ergonomic handle and different-sized nodules for targeted pressure that work deep into the muscles. IMHO, it’s the best gift yet…
More Sex Toys for Couples, And How to Use Them
December continued to offer saucy gifts and the next week unboxing our couples’ sex toys in our Lovehoney Advent Calendar delivered just as much as the first. Wrist restraints On the 8th day of Christmas, Lovehoney gave to me… velvet wrist restraints. The crushed velvet is comfortable to wear and one wrist can be clipped…
So You’re Into S&M? Meet Your Toolkit
Enjoy spanking, hair pulling and playing with power dynamics in the bedroom? Maybe you have a kink for S&M. S&M stands for sadism and masochism – though it’s often referred to as sadomasochism. It’s a sexual kink or fetish based on control and consensually giving or inflicting pain for pleasure. Sadism is the act of…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 