*Guest Blog* Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared this blog with him. It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about. True to his word, he’s said he…
Tag: relationship
Entwined
So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk. Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress. Whilst you felt things were looking better,…
This is How a Breakup Feels
I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…
“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog
*Guest blog* In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners. Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts. Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I didn’t want…
Intimacy During Covid
Sometimes a blog post comes easily. Other times, it’s a slog. And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for years and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go. Here is…
A Thank You Letter to My Ex
Dear A, I want to thank you for being receptive to the activity last week. It’s been a tough few months and we haven’t been as happy as we used to be. The constant bickering is driving us mad and our relationship isn’t always something for others to covet. Please be proud of yourself for…
The Silent Couple
The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around. Their phones faced down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons. With a quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on. When the food comes shoulders relax…
What to Talk About Before You Move in Together
Things you should talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes clean and tidy. It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy person…
15 Guys You Will Have Dated by the Time You’re 30
If you’re single for a sustained amount of time during your twenties, by the time you get to 30, you realise you have dated (or slept) with people you never thought you’d date. Here are some of them: By the time you’re 30 or have been actively dating for a substantial amount of time, you’ll…
Porn
For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn. In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn. So, here goes: Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss.  Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also because it can be so…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 