It wasn’t until the last few years of my twenties that I realised that rough sex is more common than I originally thought. Yes, hair-pulling is a common sexual preference and Pornhub is awash with all manner of synonyms for “BDSM”, but when you know where to look, you’ll find a crowd you had previously…
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Entwined
So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk. Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress. Whilst you felt things were looking better,…
This is How a Breakup Feels
I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…
“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog
*Guest blog* In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners. Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts. Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I didn’t want…
Intimacy During Covid
Sometimes a blog post comes easily. Other times, it’s a slog. And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for years and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go. Here is…
5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument
So you live with your boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re working out how to…
Two Cups, Not One
If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…
15 Guys You Will Have Dated by the Time You’re 30
If you’re single for a sustained amount of time during your twenties, by the time you get to 30, you realise you have dated (or slept) with people you never thought you’d date. Here are some of them: By the time you’re 30 or have been actively dating for a substantial amount of time, you’ll…
Porn
For a while, I’ve wanted to write about porn. In March, I tackled the hairy subject of pubic hair and promised to blog about porn. So, here goes: Porn is such a tricky subject to discuss.  Not only because for so many people it’s an awkward topic to talk about, but also because it can be so…
How to Make a New Relationship Blossom
So, you’ve got the guy! Well done, the arduous game of deciphering whether they’re interested is over. Assuming he’s worth the effort, now comes the challenge of keeping the guy. I’ve learnt a few of these along the way, and I try to bear them in mind in the hopes that my relationship will last….
Still Searching for Prince Charming 