I’ve been writing for Lovehoney for the best part of a year, and in that time, I’ve written about a lot of sex toys. Scouring countless product reviews and honest accounts on the Lovehoney Forum, I’ve got the inside scoop on the sex toys getting the nation off.

You’ve probably heard of dildos, vibrators and handcuffs, but what else is available? And what sex toys are good for newbies?

I’ve linked to some websites to help you see what you can add to your sex box. I don’t earn a commission on any clicks or purchases; I’m just sharing some online sex toy shops for your benefit. And while I make a distinction between which toys are ideal for what body parts, the reality is that any sex toy can be used for any body.

Working with a vulva?

Try a bullet. These tiny toys pack a mighty punch. Run it up and down your labia, encircle your clit then apply it directly. Cue toe curling and back arching.

Experiment with a standard pussy pump, or a pussy pump that simulates oral sex. Using a pump encourages blood flow to the area, heightening sensitivity. You might enjoy the look of a freshly pumped pussy or revel in the intensity of every subsequent stroke, pinch and lick.

If you’ve watched that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha urges others to buy a mains-powered back massager, you’ll know what a wand looks like. Plug your magic wand vibrator into the wall, slather on some lube, and dial it up as much as you dare.

Got a dick to hand?

Who doesn’t want harder, longer-lasting erections? Use a cock ring to make your dick look and feel larger without resorting to meds. They come in all sorts of arrangements: just a cock ring for your shaft, a cock and ball sleeve, with a prostate massager attached… You name it. Learn how to use a cock ring here.

Fleshlights are one of the most well-known male masturbators, but you can also get silicone sleeves, realistic-feeling vaginas, bumholes and mouths to simulate different kinds of sex.

While prostate massagers might not scream “beginner sex toys for men”, they’re worth a thought. Men’s anuses have a “p-spot”, a hotspot of nerve endings primed for pleasure. Check out my guide on how to use prostate massagers.

Whatever you’ve got…

Have a go using a blindfold. When you remove one sense, you heighten the others, so every touch will feel oh so good. Blindfolds are also great if you find yourself easily distracted. Block out the sight of the overflowing laundry basket, stop staring at that light bulb you need to change and get into the zone.

Add some restraints to your sex box. Under-bed restraints offer an all-in-one light bondage solution, thigh-to-wrist cuffs put their wearer in a compromising position, and spreader bars provide access to, well, you can guess. (Here’s what else you’ll need for a kitted-out bondage sex box.)

Lube, lube, lube. You can’t have too much, just check the expiry date!

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