Within the BDSM community, one of the most widely practised kinks is impact play – striking the body of a consenting partner for sexual pleasure. So widely practised and depicted as such in the media, that for many outside of the community, “impact play” seems synonymous with BDSM. Typically, BDSM is misinterpreted as spanking and…
Category: Dating
Declining Giving Someone Your Number
Dating apps are a great way to connect with potential love interests, whether locally or if you’re exploring further afield. Yet before long, someone is bound to want to take the conversation off the platform and probably onto WhatsApp. Guidance on being safe while online dating advises not to share your number with someone you…
Deciphering Sexualities: Understanding Different Sexual Orientations on Dating Sites
Found yourself downloading the apps again, expecting to pick from heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual for your profile, yet being confronted by no less than 20 sexual orientations? Welcome to modern online dating. While many apps cater to myriad preferences by offering a long list of sexualities to choose from, you’d be forgiven for rolling your…
Online Dating and Romance Scams: What They Are and How to Identify and Avoid Them
Catfishing is part and parcel of online dating, but what happens when someone does more than just post a younger, more flattering photo of themselves or lies about their age? How might someone con a love interest into parting with their cash? And does this really happen these days? Sadly yes. Skilled romance scammers know…
16 Red Flags Not to Ignore When Dating Someone New
With the benefit of hindsight, many of the people I’ve dated over the years had red flags cropping up here and there. Here are 16 red flags I should have spotted but didn’t. My mother did, but mothers always do. Photo by Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 on Unsplash
“Choose Your Own Adventure” – A Sexy Script
A sexy script I’ve never published. Choose Your Own Adventure INT. EARLY EVENING, A LIVELY RESTAURANT We can hear other people chatting in the restaurant and music in the background. The waiter approaches the table where Max and Rosie are sitting. WAITER The Portuguese white? ROSIE (simultaneously) Lovely, thank you! MAX (simultaneously) Awesome, thanks. We…
The Primal Rockstar – An Erotic Story
I originally wrote this for Aurore – “porn with a plotline”, published in August 2022 under the alternative title, “Starfucking”. There’s nothing like being at a live show – dancing in a sea of people, being pushed around as you all sing and shout lyrics in unison, albeit mainly off-key. You feel the drumbeat move…
Your Guide to Dating in Brighton
Everyone says that “Brighton is London by the sea”. People who say this don’t live in Brighton… Brighton comes into its own during the hot summer months when it’s heaving with locals and visitors alike; people flocking to the seaside for quintessentially-British fish and chips, booze and music with a view, and to bat off…
8 Things Guys Wish Women Knew When Dating
As a woman, have you ever spoken to a male friend about a guy you are or perhaps aren’t dating and he’s given you his thoughts only for you to think, “Ohhh, that makes sense”? During my decade of dating, I was lucky enough to have men in my life I could call upon to…
Topping from the Bottom
You might have heard the phrase “topping from the bottom” (thanks, Fifty Shades of Grey…) and wondered what it means. Maybe you’re confused about how “topping” differs from “domming” and whether you can bottom from the top, dom from the bottom or top as a Dom – and then your knickers are really in a…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 