So entwined in each others’ lives we are, that as I was about to head downstairs to talk to you, you came up and asked if we could talk. Our personal D-Day was fast approaching and you felt it was time to take stock and assess our progress. Whilst you felt things were looking better,…
Category: Relationships
This is How a Breakup Feels
I didn’t expect the end to feel quite like this. I thought it would be characterised by indifference and calmness. Instead, I’m full of frustration and anger and a constant urge to just say something. I thought it would come in waves and the bad days would be punctuated by good days. More like the…
“She Calls You ‘Casper'” – Guest Blog
*Guest blog* In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners. Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts. Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I didn’t want…
Intimacy During Covid
Sometimes a blog post comes easily. Other times, it’s a slog. And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for years and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go. Here is…
A Toolkit for Self-Care
Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time to time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better. I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy cakes will cure your depression, but if…
A Thank You Letter to My Ex
Dear A, I want to thank you for being receptive to the activity last week. It’s been a tough few months and we haven’t been as happy as we used to be. The constant bickering is driving us mad and our relationship isn’t always something for others to covet. Please be proud of yourself for…
The Silent Couple
The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around. Their phones faced down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons. With a quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that there’s something to focus on. When the food comes shoulders relax…
5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument
So you live with your boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re working out how to…
What to Talk About Before You Move in Together
Things you should talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes clean and tidy. It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy person…
Two Cups, Not One
If someone told me a year ago that the guy I nearly cancelled on would move into my home in October 2019, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the end of a spree of bad dates, I wasn’t sure whether he wanted to see me again and he’s since told me he couldn’t work out…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 